July 2025
June 2025
New blog;
.
As Ive moved on…
.
Lets talk about relationships;
.
To clarify and sum up all or most of what Ive written about from my past blogs concerning most friends or girlfriends I had problems with; or those outside the immediate family system of what I grew up with; meaning different forms of assumed friendships or intimate romantic gatherings…
.
Ive witnessed and my detective work on these subjects has concurred one main factor; I was looking for friends with people who never wanted to be friends with me ( They had done nothing wrong). I had interviewed the wrong people. I ended up around the wrong people… I made a mistake of interviewing the wrong people at the wrong places with bad timing.
.
How is this possible?
Through dysfunctional family system mayhem; bad communication channels; imbalanced mental conditions; we can through in drug use at the time… Geographical changes; youth.. I simply found myself meandering into strange areas meeting new people; the wrong people the wrong places; unknown places; unknown to me. No one ever came to me; they were strangers; I went to them; I gambled that they might like me; I was wrong; they never did; they stayed strangers… it happens.
.
I become frightened… I did not understand why no one I saw potential in me and didn’t like me… Being frustrated; I withdrew from society and never really came out of my shell. Later in life; in the recovery process I will began to understand what happened here.
.
What happened; why didn’t people in my early life like me; Simple answer; Some how; I had befallen the wrong people… The problem; I never pulled back from these wrong people; got straitened out and then headed out again to find or connect with the right ones… I was not guided by a higher power at the time nor within a recovery process of many people on my side; support teams.
.
With no Judgment; the wrong people were simply; The wrong people; They were people to move on from… They were not people for me… I was not people for them… One might say; we were never suppose to meet… I have theories of what happened that we would entangle into dysfunctional meetings together; better that we untangle as quickly as possible and I go my own way as fast as possible; as nothing of value could be expected… It was mistaken identity on my part…
.
I simply walked up to strangers homes; I the salesman; Presented my wears; and when I was done with my performance with a smile on my face; They were not interested; and that was that. Stunned; I walked away… I had mistaken the house I was performing at; I had picked the wrong house to perform at. I was confused after this; For I had picked several houses randomly to perform at and had no success. Little did I know; I had picked the wrong neighborhood. It didn’t matter what house I picked; I would never be accepted at any of them until I left the neighborhood and found other neighborhoods to sell within.
.
This did bother me for a bit for I was in a state of confusion over this for awhile. However; after being in the recovery process for a long while and re thinking this; I realized; I had simply given myself away; I had given my presentation to the wrong viewer/viewers.
.
What I really needed was some direct marketing… learning to market what I had to those who were in need; those looking for what I had…
.
Im now learning to work with a higher power; and allow the right people to manifest down my God Pathway… Im not saying I trust or believe this yet; or know how to visualize it in this basic specific way in the real world.. However; Im willing to try it and work with the concept of it and see what will come about from it… Im working on training my brain for it right now….
.
What Ive learned…
.
IT doesn’t do any good trying to sell Dog food to a Dog thats already eaten… They are full and have no desire or need for more… they have everything they need; they don’t need what Im selling.
.
If Im the seller and they are buyer; Its better to find out if they want to buy what Im selling or even if they are in the need or mood to buy. its better to get matched up to those that are looking to buy and I looking to sell… Dont waist my time with anything else…
.
If someone is looking for a red car and Ive got a blue car; Dont bother them… Dont waist my time… Instead; work with God and those God sends to help me find those looking for red cars. Dont worry about anyone else… Dont bother with anyone else; and Dont bother them. Nothing is worse bothering or pestering someone to buy something when they are not advertising as a buyer. At some point its harassment to keep bugging them. Dont expect them( some stranger) to (all at once) explain their position in life; ( They never claimed to be a buyer or a seller) just because Im looking to sell something; Those people might be polite or have other problems on their minds and don’t want to bother with me… And that is their perfect right.
1. Its better to go to the right house in the first place to do my selling and not the wrong one… If I end up at the wrong house; apologize and move on as fast as possible; get out of there; nothing good can come of a place like that; move on to the next house… Do not waist their time or my time… move on as fast as possible.
2. Dont square dance around the ribbon tree for three months; when Im suppose to be about business; When I meet someone; tell them the truth of why I am their. Let them decide (then n their) if they are interested in what Im selling. Nothing is worse then someone claiming to have something or be something the other party might want when in reality I really don’t have it. Suddenly I spring on them Ive got something else I want to show them… This simply wont work; its not the way to do business… don’t be a fake; let people know exactly what Ive got and if it might interest them… if I knock on the house and tell the owner Ive got a red car for sale; let it be just that and nothing more; don’t add lies to it to entice the owner. Simply supply the product and its information and find out if the owner is interested in my sales pitch… If not; move on as quickly as possible. Do not spend 3 months trying to get the house owners attention when they have no interest or need in a red car and never claimed they did.
.
I must remember; They never came to me looking for anything… When Im selling to someone in this nature; Im always going to them down their lane; Im always taking a big chance; 50/50% chance for success… I must remember; (They are not in my lane Im in theirs) and I was never invited in the first place…. . Even if a cousin or a brother or a mother or a sister or a friend has invited me up to their house; I am not really invited… Only when the other party has seen me on their own; learned of me personally; and they want an audience of my presence; Only then is their a chance; and still; even then it might be a very small chance of anything meaningful…
.
RULE: Beware of starting the process of going to someone elses lane… That is not a very good footing to start a foundation… Better to be down my own lane and attract to myself through my higher powers pathway what I am looking for.
.
.
A BETTER SOLUTION:
.
1. Stop blaming other house owners who were never interested; they never came to me in the first place. I was always swimming in their lane and not the other way around…
.
2. Im attempting to work with a higher power down a God Pathway… let God manifest someone down my pathway just for me… I can use lots of techniques for this; learning the laws of attraction… and success based programs for success; Takes allot of work but Im finding its worth it. And I can join support groups for supportive encouragement… Never be alone.. always have wing men and wing women… always…
.
One technique is to spend allot of time writing stories about having success before it happens… and writing stories of experiences before they happen; using my imagination of the way I want things to turn out; writing about what I want as if its already happened before it happened.
.
Visualizing what I want is good…
I like to draw pictures of the experiences of what I want before it happens…
.
When I create these new stories on a daily basis; it seems over time; I gain a kind of experience and confidence that makes me ready for such things in the real world; Gets my frequency up to speed for what I want to attract….
.
.
FRIENDSHIP;
.
So; Im now using these new techniques to learn how to work with a higher power to attract new friends… This time I stay in my own lane and see who God manifests for me down my own God Pathway… Its attraction not promotion.
.
I must remember; if God is not attracting those popular people to my well; maybe its better they never show up and drink from it…
.
I must learn to work with my higher power and not switch lanes when times are lean… Just keep with my support groups and keep working with God/Universe…
.
.
.
Our partner
Who is online
Registered users: Bing [Bot], Google [Bot], Google Adsense [Bot], Google Feedfetcher, idontknowatalll, streamlinevideo
- Home ‹ Board index ‹ Blogs ‹ OMNICELL's Blog ‹ Phase 12 #11 A better approach
- Contact • Advertise on Psychforums • The team • Delete all board cookies • All times are UTC
News
Site map
SitemapIndex
RSS FeedCheck Mental Health Matters
Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007, 2014 phpBB Group
Time : 2.983s | 22 Queries | GZIP : Off | Load : 3.82
Time : 2.983s | 22 Queries | GZIP : Off | Load : 3.82