July 2025
June 2025
The universe continues to send me new insights on relationship wisdom....
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1. Do not date or associate with anyone who makes the comment " He means nothing to me"; Run from this. Something has gone wrong concerning my ability to associate with the right people.
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2. Behavior in relationship and courting process of relationship...
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" I MEANT NOTHING TO THEM"
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First; I need to know right from the beginning what the person thinks of me. If Im associating with someone; it needs to be of equal measure; they need to value me completely for my worth; not a ounce less... They need to see my worth the way I see my worth; the way God sees my worth; Thus; I would say; Morals. They have a set of decent moralistic judgment; a relationship with GOd. IT needs to be matched up before I meet them. I need to find this out first. I want to be around people that value me completely for what Im worth from the beginning..
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When I associate with someone that doesn't value me; Its my opinion this is never going to change. Ive found people of a lower economic status and higher; where neither group valued me for who I am. Thus; I must learn to stay away from those type of people.
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I never remember once; where a person who didnt value me came to me wanting to be friends; I went to them.. I stood at their door trying to get their attention... In the end it was a waste of time. They valued me the same in the future as they did in the present; they didnt value me at all. I mean nothing to them from the beginning; I mean nothing to them in the middle; I mean nothing to them in the end when they suddenly throw me away and discard me..
This is a very important concept for me; Do not associate with anyone who does not directly see my worth at the right equal level... Stay away from them. I do not blame people anymore that have no value for me. My only job is to get away from them as fast as possible and never go near them again. DId God send them to me? NO! "WHy would God send someone that has no value for me?". THat is insane...
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DOWN GODS PATHWAY;
When working in only one pathway; on direction; A God pathway; with God at the end of it; Working on this in my imagination; and on paper writing stories about what I want; and drawing those stories with color pens and pencils and paints and stuff; or computer art materials and such; visualizing what I want...
When working down Gods pathways; my goal is to develop... and strengthen down a pathway; I work in safe spaces; Gods pathway... If I want relationships; I imagine them down my pathway; and in this case; its also the pathway given to me to use by the universe/God... Sunny Jesus...
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When Im interested in having friends; I want God to bring them... I want them showing up down Gods pathway. I want them brought by God. THus the work I do is to send the signal to God of what I want if i want it manifested. I want God bringing them; to show up down the energy river Im floating down..
NOTE: I got the idea of the energy river from LOA coaches online....
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I want them coming in from God into Gods pathway; the pathway Im working down. I do not want to head out on my own; cross numerous divides and mountains and valleys only to find myself in stranger places that are unsafe; meeting unsafe unknown people in strange neighborhoods...
Im not interested in my friends coming from Satan wearing nice middle class clothing; acting like everything is friendly and nice when these people actually have no respect for someone like me; I mean nothing to them.
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A PROBLEM DEALING WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT VALUE ME:
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The main issue when dealing with someone who has no value for me and I press the issue and want to become friends with them. THey are not obligated to tell me " I mean nothing to them". They may feel feelings of superiority and believe they are truly better then I; and I mean nothing to them.. And they will never tell me. And no law in the land says they have to. Thus; this kind of thing can get dangerous.
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Imagine I meet a women Im attracted to; she did not appear down Gods pathways... She is outside that pathway; she is from a distant place and has no credentials to prove she is a safe person. Basically Im throwing myself to the wolves to get involved with someone like this. Did she come to me; NO! I went to her. If I had never gone to her; I would have never met her.. she would never come to me; nor find me; she doesn't have to. She would never be interested in me in the first place because; I meant nothing to her in the first place.
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I make the felonious mistake of wanting to help her or love her co dependently; meaning; "she would be different if only I was involved in her life; I was their to love her; Im sure this would save her or help her" " My Love can save her. My love will bring her back to life". " I want this person as my friend and I want to help her; we will be comrades together on this journey togetherness". When I talk like this; Im setting myself up. Im making imaginative reasons to be in this person's life. Chances are; this person never suggested they wanted me in their life; They never suggested anything was really wrong with them; and they never suggested they want a relationship. Nor did they suggest they need me saving it or them..
I need to find out from the start if this person values me.. It must be of equal value before I get involved. Im not involved with them to save anyone. If they wanted to be saved; they'd find a mental health agency In their Down Town area; or what ever; and get counseling. If they are not willing to get counselling help; and or make it to an open 12 step group; Why would I think Im going to persuade them in one direction or the other; especially when they never asked for me to be in their lives nor asked my advice nor asked me for help!
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NOTE: The person that I mean nothing to; They do not care about my mental or physical health or about my future or my past or my present condition. These are the last people to ever put any trust in or faith or hope or for God Sake; Never Ever think of becoming friends with them; Never become friends with these type of people under all conditions; Why? because they are not my friends; they cant be my friends; They see no value in me.. This is not going to change.. They lose nothing stabbing me in the back; leading me on; playing emotional games with me to a point of my confusion and thus discarding me and never associating with me ever again.
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Do they owe me anything; NO! Why?
1. THey never came to me; I went to them
2. Because I mean nothing to them; DId I try to find out how they viewed me or felt about me the moment I met them?.
3. I had expectations of a person that did not value me...
4. I must have had some kind of arrogant entitlement; What else would compel me reach out to someone that would secretly murder me behind me back. I mean; seriously; what else would I expect from a person Im associating with where I mean nothing to them and I have no value to them?
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I guess Im making my point.
They have free reign to be as unethical with me as they want.. For they lose nothing if they never see me again. They dont care if they ever see me again. They feel nothing...
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What would happen if I decided to forgo meeting them; and just allow myself to walk on by... What would happen; they would never meet me. All would be well!
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#2; BEHAVIOR;
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Ive found my behavior so immature around those I wanted a relationship; My behavior was so strange and schizophrenia like; fractured; and beneath the grade; those dealing with me in a state of frustration and confusion; gave up on me! THey finally just walked away. And basically never came back; unfortunately I managed to find them again and want to hang out with them. I did not change. I got nowhere with them. My behavior was like a broken 9 year old.. I could not function forward into a relationship.. I did odd behaver's of avoidance to a point of dislocation from reality and from the person in front of me. They finally wrote me off and left...
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I can clearly see I was several years behind in maturity; in acting. I was like a 9 year old trying to deal with a much older person. IT was impossible. I break or gap existed between where I was at and the the realm of the other persons frequency of social acceptable behavior.. My behavior was hinging on madness.. And it didnt get me any favors from on lookers. It certainly stopped my love life completely...
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MATURITY:
Im at this place of some forms of sanity with the ability to start over again. And my behavior has to be retaught to function normally around others again. Or; safe responsable and passable.
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THis is where Im headed; my goals; to learn the right way to behave in the social situations for to gain some success...
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