July 2025
June 2025
Asking others for help; getting help all the way to success
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It started several years ago; Well; actually it started a 4th of a century ago when I attended my first 12 step meeting; I wasnt doing anything alone. Altho I was alone; I could not open up to anyone; I stayed by myself because of mental illness; severe levels… I wasnt alone; I was in the rooms of recovery; altho my mind wasnt present.
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Later; after meeting new people and opening up to new people and opening up in the rooms; I met people and started showing up to there houses and just hanging out. I had done this in the beginning of my recovery; but that was more about survival mode; I could not function; nothing; completely out of it.
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However. A few years back; more like several; 4-5 years back; start talking to others and showing up at there houses and just hanging out.
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Later; started talking to others in the meetings as I was directed by higher power and some of those people started guiding me and directing me and helping me; I ended up going places with them and doing things with them and riding in there trucks and stuff.
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Later; we would talk about car stuff; maybe; I owning my own car; I was getting better mentally and maybe it was time; the universe would align such things.
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I then decided it was time to start asking people to take me to meetings; Ive always ridd’n a bike.
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I had to ask them; it wasnt easy to ask someone for anything. I did it anyway.
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Soon they were picking me up on a regular basis and I had to learn to show up on time for the ride; also; I got an alarm clock so I could make sure I got up on time.
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From asking for rides; I began to get to know people. At times Ive had more recovery conversations in the car with people then at the meetings. By getting rides; especially with people opening meetings; Im around the recovery process several extra hours per day because I must be picked up early and brought home late; If one is hitting several recovery meetings per day; this can add up to allot of recovery time per day and thus; more recovery…
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WORKING WITH GOD CONCERNING A CAR…
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Well; God has not dropped the OK switch to get a car yet… or I havent believed Im actually going to get one out of God. Until I believe God is going to get me a car; it wont happen. So; still; much work needs to be done in this area.
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However, as I dream push and pray and write about car use. Something else of importance came up as Ive been working with my inner being; Vacations.
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VACATIONS;
Where do I want to go on vacations; Im getting signs that vacations are important things and I agree. Vacations have opened up for me.
When Young; I was taken to several different places at times that turned into full vacations or one day vacation spots… However, because the family I was living with; they were evil and they destroyed and dumped me as a human being in later childhood; ( Never saw it coming); I could never go back to any place associated with those monsters… I was not allowed to remember my childhood and thus; blocked out the idea of ever revisiting anything associated with that childhood; including houses friends or vacations and many other things.
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However, with enough recovery and help from others; I; with permission from God; I re visited 2 main vacation areas of my childhood; I had not been to those places since childhood. I never even thought about it… To much fear associated with those people I grew up with. I wasnt allowed by my nervous system to remember…
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IN THE PRESENT;
Since visiting these places last year. After talking to God; and getting signs of opening up for vacations; Im now going to visit 5 different places during the summer; and Im going to visit those 5 places several times each. In one case; 5 or more times.
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They are not all that far away; The main vacation spots are 160-180 miles away. The other three are more like 35 miles to 40 miles away.
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The closer destinations from my home town; I want to visit numerous times in the summer; they have swimming and forestry and trails and other things… cool place; camping; just a really nice place located on the river; a kind of hidden Oasis.
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So; if I have no car; how do I do this. Well.
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1. I love trains and will be traveling to or through bigger cities on train; and thats part of this vacation concept; but that has nothing to do with cars. This is another aspect of my vacations interests; so; trains wont be helping for these 5 vacation areas Ive mentioned. Trains are for much longer bigger time spaced more expensive vacations; more serious level vacations.
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2. Ill need a car; price? In my area; 200 a day for the car rental ; 60-100 bucks for gas. So; 250$-300$ per day to visit one of these vacation spots; Ill be going only for one day; So; its 250$-300$; The rental car is actually 170$; With Gas prices going up; 250$ bucks with gas to rent a car per day. And I will being using them for one day only at a time.
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Buses; Yes; buses can be important for destinations associated with buses... so far; most of the places I want to vacation at have no bus service to or fro. Buses are a cool thing and Ill look into them; However, they do not apply to the 5 vacation areas of my interests.
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OTHER POSSIBILITIES FOR TRANSPORTATION;
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Since learning how to be consistent asking for rides. I worked with God on a plan; Ill ask some of these people if I can rent them and there cars for the same price I would rent a rental car and head to my vacation spots for a day.
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Who would I ask; People I know or are or have given rides in the past or on a regular basis to meetings.
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So; I did just that; I asked a few people… I told them I want to go several times this summer to each of these vacation areas. So far; people have been completely open to the idea; no problems. And they would not charge me as much as a rental car agency would charge. They even suggested I can bring someone with me. So; I was greatly surprised and happy. And Ill be traveling in very nice cars… I told them I wanted to travel several times this summer to each of these destination; would they be interested; and they said yes; they would have days open to pick me up by car and taking me to my one day vacation excursions.
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It is not easy to ask people for what I want. I must remember; Im working with God and working with the universe to do Gods will for my life; even if I have no idea how? Traveling has been one of those big questions; I don’t have a car; I wont move forward with a car unless the universe aligns everything; All moneys needed to take care of license ,insure ,gas ,maintenance and so on…. That has not happened yet… The alignment.
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So; Im out asking people if I can rent them and there car… They laugh when I tell them I want to rent them!
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I have a few main’rs now who will help me this summer; and made it clear; if Im to bossy or what ever asking them to show up for me; just tell me.. Im not trying to hijack them… and of course I offered to pay them full price… So…. People could be people pleasing me; but I dont think so.
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HOW DOES THIS APPLY TO OTHER AREAS OF MY RECOVERY?
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In a sense? Im going to ask my way into a whole new life. Ill start out asking others for help and slowly move up the latter of what ever it is I want; or Im goaling for. If the goal is money and Im working on pathways to money; soon; working with the universe; Ill ask for help from the universe for direction and Ill meet people that can help me.
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If its relationships; Ill work my way into knowing people at deeper levels.
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Ive already mentioned transportation and vacations.
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I can do this moving forward; moving me forward into new areas of life; this concept of asking others for help…
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Ive been specific when asking them… I know what I want! I ll ask for help! ; I explained it to them and offered equal compensation if I could for there services; meaning I would pay them the going rate to help me.
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I can see a movement forward in this direction to help me get to the middle of society; off the edges; back in the middle of things to live a normal life; to get to the opportunities to live a life again.
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Its kind of humiliating to ask people for help all the time; but it does strengthen things; and it helps build connections… The bigger part of Gods plans for my life.
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