I’ve noticed she’s been drinking a lot more ever since I told her my dad had molested me. She doesn’t seem to be able to live with herself for it. I have brought up the idea of her joining me in therapy, but she isn’t up for it. She believes it would be sad if she went for therapy at her age. I tried talking to her about her drinking too, but she just told me “You have your way of dealing with it, I have mine.” I’m at a loss. I don’t want her becoming an alcoholic and I would for her to be able to overcome this properly since it’s obviously affected her too, but I can’t help her if she won’t help herself. Not that this is more important than my mother’s well-being, but I also fear her getting so drunk, that she tells other friends and relatives, which is something I’m still not ready for. But it makes me feel pressured to tell them so they found out through me before her. I just don’t know what to do.