A few weeks ago, a man I was romantically involved with a few years ago started reaching out to me again. We were together for almost 4 years, but we simply grew apart and agreed to separate on good terms. He contacted me on Facebook late last month. It was nice hearing from him again and we were chatting off and on for a little while to catch up.

We ended up getting together for lunch one time so we could catch up properly. That was real nice, but I let him know I wasn't interested in any relationships right now. He doesn't know I was molested and I didn't tell him I was in therapy, but I told him I was going through personal issues and even if I was interested, now just wouldn't be a good time for a relationship. He said he was fine with that, but he hoped we could remain acquainted, which I'm honestly fine with.

Then last week, he ends up contacting me asking if we can get together again over the weekend. This was Thursday, after I learned my mom now has panic attacks, one of which nearly got her in a car wreck. I told him about that and that it wasn't a good time while also reminding him that now isn't the time for personal relationships, romantic or otherwise. He just expressed his condolences for my mom and that he hopes everything will be okay with us. He didn't really respond to me reiterating that I'm not interested, but I hoped that meant he got the hint.

But yesterday, I ended up getting a surprise bouquet of roses from him. I don't really care for flowers or Valentines Day. He knows this and says he did it as a friendly joke. The comical note he left with the bouquet suggests this is indeed the case, but I think it's both a friendly inside joke and him hinting he's interested in getting back together with me. I thanked him for the joke/gift, but also stressed how serious I was about not being interested in any relationships right now, if that was his way of hinting he wants to get back with me.

He still says he understands that and he just wants be friends, but I can't help but wonder. I think he might want to get back together with me and is hoping he can win me over with more dates and gifts until I start developing feelings for him. I could be wrong and I hope I am. If not, he's going to be in for a rude awakening. He's not a bad guy and I trust he'll eventually take the hint and go his own way. But I also won't be surprised if he tries one more time. If so, I'll just have to tell him I'm not interested one more time.

It's low-key adding on to the stress I've been feeling about my mom, but I haven't told him that yet. If he does try one more time, I will. I might feel bad for it, but I'm sure then he'll finally get it. I really would like to remain amicable with him because I do like him as a person. But if he still wants to be with me and can't get past that, it might just be better if we remain going our separate ways.

Well... I may not be much of a guy, but I still got that Y chromosome and to this guy it seems as if he's being a little too pushy about it. So yeah, you might need to be pretty frank about not wanting to get in a relationship.