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I recently came across a site online that mentioned the following as a symptom of AvPD.

"Patients are perfectionists and can reject those who do not live up to their standards. Belief that their absence of relationships is not because they are unable to have them, but rather that they do not want to waste their time."

Can anyone relate to this?

I have been reading threads here for a while and have never posted before now. I felt like "What's the point of posting? I have nothing worthwhile to contribute. What is anyone going to get out of reading some junk I wrote?" Another hesitation for me is that I don't want to get stuck in front of my computer for an hour while I deliberate over exactly how to write what I have to say ...

I'm not sure if this is related to AvPD, but does anyone feel they easily get attached to people?

Post all your happy thoughts in here, and what steps you've taken to overcome AvPD! It'll be much neater, I reckon, than having threads all over the place.

As for me, yeah, I'm feeling quite pleased with myself right now. I have done the following this week:

- Managed to get a partner for my social pharmacy project when I was despairing since none of my friends were in my workshop, and the requirement was ...

Has anyone tried this? I think the first time I heard this I might have thought it was kind of a fake thing.. But the more I learned about it, the more I realized its completely real. We actually go through some sort of hypnosis all the time, its more common than you think. All it means is reaching an altered and slower state of brain activity. Its the state you commonly get in say ...

I was alway curious to know if i would give birth to a child with the same problems as me. I would not want my child to be avpd because know what a pain it can be.

Do you guys also have problems with expectations? I can perceive expectations/unspoked demands and needs from everyone and their dog, which is often overwhelming and causes anxiety. One reason for withdrawal. Apart from that, I often have the feeling that I have to fulfill their expectations. If I don't, there will be guilt. Does this ring a bell for anyone?

The whole thing came up because I had an interview for an internal position on ...

i am so desperately lonely.

i feel so hopelessly isolated and alone. i just can't take it anymore. it is swallowing me alive. i wake up in the middle of the night and start crying. even start crying in the middle of the day at my desk or at home doing the dishes for no apparent reason.

getting through the day is becoming increasingly difficult. this hole inside of me is growing and eating up ...

First off, I am not sure, if this incident resulted from avoidant issues or dependent issues, but it surely threw me.

As background, I have been taking singing lessons with the same teacher for a couple of years, something that I have always wanted to do. So that is good. However, she always tries to push me to do concerts, competitions etc. She thinks, I have talent, which is flattering. I already told her that ...

I've only really just found out about the likes of AvPD and BPD etc, but I've been feeling depressed for more than a year now. I never had a great deal of friends, but I always generally liked people. but recently, I've started to feel some resentment towards people. I get funny looks (or what I perceive to be funny looks) all the damn time, and I always feel like I'm on the back foot ...