Regarding something stupid someone said in the NPD forum (who would've thought?).

No. Abusive, vengeful bitterness does not get the message across that "you are real". It gets the message across that you don't deserve to be treated well or with compassion because you are just as abusive as those who've abused you. Oblitering any incentive one may have to feel sympathy for you, guilt for how they treated you, or to treat you like a valuable human being.

There's a difference between speaking up for yourself & being a bitter asshole. Learn it. I have no respect for people (without mental disorders) who let abuse turn them into the very thing they're so against. None. Not even worth spitting on. Pathetic.

If you're abusive & don't believe abuse is wrong, I respect you. If you're abusive & can't control it, I have sympathy for you. But if you're abusive, sane, & you're against abuse, you're a filthy hypocrite & I hate you.