Growing up, I endured the physical abuse & she endured the mental/emotional. When it all happened at once, one of us would take it all & we'd retreat from the rest of the world & divine the burden among ourselves accordingly. We learned so much about each other. What we share in common makes us tighter than sisters. Our differences make us one hell of a team. It seems like between the two of us, anything would be possible. Now I wish I were the one who took on the emotional burden. I can take it. I don't have normal people's weaknesses. Sage is incredibly weal, mentally & emotionally. Yet she's deemed the most resilient one of all of us in those areas. I don't understand. Are competence and strength not the same thing? How can someone who cries & cuts & can barely get out of bed, make simple decisons or even take a joke be mentally/emotionally stronger than someone with willpower & confidence, who never loses their head or resolve?