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As I mentioned I am about 1 month out of a relationship with a N. I feel so emotionally torn hence why I've found this sight to vent it out I guess.
I feel angry, cheated, used, deceived, betrayed and yet I also fell stupid, alarmed and guilty at myself for being so blind. I'm starting to look back through it now I see all kind of warning signs I chose to ignore, like all ...

I've just come out of a relationship with a N. Now I find myself with a much more wary of human nature..but it's early days and hopefully I'll recover...but what I find scary is I confronted him that he had "Gaslighted me" silly I know and he immediately turned the accusation onto me. Which having read about NPD know this can happen called projection. What I'm thinking is if someone has accused a N of ...

Ok, so here's my NEW dilemma concerning my annoying, desperate, hateful little narc. Ive escaped to my parents house, been here since Friday, however, it seems much MUCH longer. Actually, I feel like I'm in hell! I have told him our relationship is done! That's it! Over! Finished! Toast! Get the F*** out of my life! ect.. the list goes on and on. However, since he has realized his favorite Narcissistic supply is leaving him, ...

I read this today on a website and it was so clear and commonsense that I wanted to share it.

In order for a marriage to succeed, there must be intimacy. In order for there to be intimacy there must be empathy.

Narcissism = no empathy = no intimacy = marriage doomed to fail.

It was true in my case, and although I lasted 30 years in a marriage with a narc, I want to ...

I have been having some MAJOR problems with my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and three months, he is 21 and I am 20. We moved in together in November and things have not been the same since. It seems as though he has done a complete one-eighty and I am starting to believe he has NPD. Here are the reasons why (sorry it might be a little long.)

He has always ...

It's true, in the past year I've learned to speak my mind, speak clearly about what hurts and offends me. (Naturally, he sees it as criticizing and insulting him.) Alas, I've learned about NPD!

But, when I remind him, does he REALLY not REMEMBER my kinder, sweeter and more caring behavior and attitude of two years ago? Selective memory, or is he just faking it???

Why didn't I listen. I really hurt myself. When you guys said to "RUN' leave him alone...I didn't. I kept trying to make it work.
Out of a sense of rage my NAR retailiated because I insisted that he refund me at least $4,000 of money that I loaned him. He retailiated by contacting my job and employer ( he knows him through is own business as well)! I had given my Nar a deadline ...

In the psychoanalytic literature I've read so far narcissistic behavior is viewed as maladaptive and as stemming from early (usually infantile) trauma. Behaviors are seen mostly as defenses which the the narc is simply not flexible enough to forsake, because he equates them with survival.

On the other hand, while browsing the web I sometimes come across writings by people who clearly believe quite strongly that everything narcs do they choose to do and the ...

It seems that narcissistic personality development is based on "feeling good" rather than "doing something good". Perseverance, hard work is no longer equated as important steps towards human satisfaction and happiness.

Parents educate children in a way that "feeling bad" is projected as something shameful and to be avoided at all cost. So what comes first? The horse or the cart? If one feels bad, one blames society or others in their surrounding and demand ...

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I find this to be an extremely interesting and useful site.

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It'd be great to hear some opinions!