Hello,
I have been the SO of someone with DID for 10 years, and I have always read the importance of staying neutral when it comes to the inner wars.
But what should a SO do when your loved one is caught up in huge inner wars opposing 2 sub systems : all the protectors vs all the persecutors.
I mean when chidlren are involved, caught up by an abusive alter, calling to you, begging ...