Do you avoid relationships and sex?

I somehow just learned what SPD actually was, and it felt kind of nice to actually put a name on what I might have. Before, I thought I might have an avoidant personality disorder due to my shyness and social problems, but after reading about schizoid, it seems so much more fitting.

There are a few things I'm not sure about though. For example, I read that people with SPD usually don't have boyfriends/girlfriends and that they don't usually want sexual relationships. I'm the opposite. As stupid as it is, I'm one of those girls who likes male attention and likes being in a relationship. I will say, the boy usually gets mad at how distant and unemotional I am, which does, in fact, sound like SPD. So my question is, do you guys dislike being in relationships, and do you avoid sexual relationships?

I avoid relationships.

With regards to sex: I'm not asexual but sex is not something that I seek out either. And I certainly don't attach my self worth to it; I think it's pathetic and weird that some people get depressed about being virgins, honestly.

I'm not interested in being in a romantic relationship or having sex.

I assume that by' avoiding relationships' you mean not actively seeking them ,as they don't just stumble upon one.

Not very interested in sex either, and despite how hurtful it is to my man ego, I do have a tendency to avoid situations that are assured to lead to it.

I used to avoid relationships but not sex. Once I understood you didn't have to be in a relationship to have sex I was pretty happy with things. In my early teens I thought relationships were necessary for sex, but I discovered they weren't.

On the occasions I did get into relationships, "falling for a person" was always about internalising the fantasy of having a relationship while keeping the person at a distance.

I started trying to beat my SPD tendencies before I knew what the label was or had even really paid any attention to that kind of thing, back in 2008 or so. I wouldn't have accepted the label if it had been applied to me. I had a good imagination, but I ended up hating it because of the time I'd spend lost in it, (mix of isolation and dissociation.) Because of this I thought I had ADD at one point.

Not spending much time with most people wasn't something I made public - I'd pretend to be very busy. So instead people who saw very little of me and had to pester me to get in touch, or who only got to see me through contacting another friend, and people were left with some very false impressions of me.

I often feel like I must be in a relationship to be happy. :/ If I am in a relationship I tend to always MUST see my partner otherwise I will become very, very, very anxious. I have a very strong fear of being abandoned by my partner. When it comes to sex I'm just as sexually active as anyone else, I don't avoid sex. In the past I would keep thinking that I MUST never be in a relationship then I will in the next 5 hours get extremely angry and depressed for 2 minutes at the most crying saying I NEED to be in a relationship. I go between these things quiet a lot, I usually just go to my happy place so my symptoms get less and less as strong.

My councillor has really helped me to deal with situations like this, they still occur but it gets worse when I ask out someone on a date and they say no. Which sadly does happen a lot.

Yes to both. Partially because I have no idea how to acquire either, and I have no desire to go the hooker route.

Yes, I avoid both. I don't seek them out. I don't want either. I'm not secretly pining for a relationship at night. To be honest, most of my 'relationships' happen against my will -- not that people force me, but I see it when people start having an investment and I feel like I owe them something -- effort, I suppose. But, I definitely have no desire for intimacy or to be touched or comforted by anyone at any point. It feels horrible.

yep, same here! i refuse to date or have sex.

I have serious fight or flight responses to flirting.

That said, I'm "trying" to find a long term relationship on my terms. It hasn't worked so-far.