Do you avoid relationships and sex?

EmpathySucks wrote:http://addicted2success.com/success-advice/why-successful-people-leave-their-loser-friends-behind/

And that's it.

*is never going to be successful* :3

That link was pointless.

I do tend to avoid both relationships and sex, although that isn't to say I'm necessarily asexual. I just don't care enough to pursue it. I'm 22 years-old, and I have not tried to go after any girl. Ever. Had a couple that liked me (or claimed to. Kinda sketchy business, actually), but yeah, they would've definitely had some emotional expectations of me, so I figured it would've ended really badly even if I did date them.

Someone also mentioned a few posts ago about society's penchant for establishing self-worth based on sexual activity. I've always been befuddled by that concept. I suppose since sex is, in some incarnation, pretty much everywhere, people have it ingrained in their minds that f-cking makes you king sh-t of the turd pile. Which is dumb. Sex is seriously the most basic impulse. Pretty much anyone can do it. I just don't see the rationality in having a sense of accomplishment about the easiest thing in the world to do. Not that I expect people to be rational... but yeah.

Oh, and with flirting, man, I'll never understand that, either. I think I've been hit on a couple times, but it was hard to tell if they were being sincere or if they thought it was funny to mockingly flirt with the ugly guy. I also don't know how to "flirt" - the few girls I've talked to, I just made a random comment or cracked a joke.

EtherealStarlight wrote:

EmpathySucks wrote:http://addicted2success.com/success-advice/why-successful-people-leave-their-loser-friends-behind/

And that's it.

*is never going to be successful* :3

Define successful.

under ice wrote:That link was pointless.

Yeah, you kinda need to know how to read to understand it..

But still, tell me what's "pointless".

cobra cat wrote:Unfortunately, I am not attractive enough for women to just want to have sex with me

So I am willing to play the dating game, but on my terms

Its not about how you look so much as what signals you send out. If you send out "looking for relationship" messages it affects what you get back. - Same as one of my complaints; if you hate attention so much you feel you have to act as the person people will "expect" you to be, to avoid attention, even though it gets you what you might see as negative attention...

Having said, it is different for guys, "more work" because of cultural expectations.

EmpathySucks wrote:http://addicted2success.com/success-advice/why-successful-people-leave-their-loser-friends-behind/

And that's it.

Seen that kind of stuff before... yes, awkward for many here, lol. "you are the average of the 5 people you spend most time with" ..as I struggle to think of 5 people I spend large amounts of my time with

Yeah, you kinda need to know how to read to understand it..

But still, tell me what's "pointless".

Irrelevant to this particular thread.

katana wrote: Its not about how you look so much as what signals you send out.

I'm still screwed

Velociraptor wrote:I avoid relationships (making and maintaining) and sex.

Slightly off topic but as I was quickly scrolling and skimming down the page I combined your comment with your username and read it as "I avoid velociraptors." Practical advise, nonetheless!

SalsaShark wrote:Sex is seriously the most basic impulse. Pretty much anyone can do it. I just don't see the rationality in having a sense of accomplishment about the easiest thing in the world to do.

I agree that attaching your self worth to your sexual prowess is dumb, but I think the reason people brag about it is not so much to say "I can do it," but rather "I am desirable and can convince a lot of people to do it with me." On the other end of that spectrum are the people who get depressed about being virgins because they perceive it as "I am undesirable and can't even get someone to do the most primal act with me."

Pretty pathetic either way in my opinion. But they say the same thing about us and our preference for solitude. What a funny little world.

About sex: Most (male) clubbers (around 90%) return home only to masturbate. At best they get some fat/ugly girl. This extends to pretty much 90% of the male population. You're a virgin until you're with a hot girl. No compromises.

cobra cat wrote:

katana wrote: Its not about how you look so much as what signals you send out.

I'm still screwed

Only at this moment in time. If you see everything as not being changeable, that's a really good way to be screwed, so you might want to think about why you see things that way...