My Username wrote: Some will argue NPD is on a spectrum with psychopathy, the psychopath being "very narcissistic".
My Username wrote:Those with NPD are quite a bit different than plain old narcissists. Some easy ways to differentiate..
- Lacks empathy - sees no wrong in personally attacking others, or completely ignoring you
- Being told "no" comes off as a personal attack
- Is oblivious to his own disorder
- Treats others as sub-human, but sees it as "they way it should be"
- Has few friends
- Is asocial when no attention from others is available
Basically, NPD is narcissism in all aspects of life - it is all pervasive. It is woven into the personality of the individual, and no amount of love or introspection can change their own opinion about their god-like self.
Yes, people can have it worse than others. Narcissism (most all college kids) is very common, especially in fields like law and business. NPD however, is quite unique. Some will argue NPD is on a spectrum with psychopathy, the psychopath being "very narcissistic".
But i understand why you ask.. NPD is very hard to spot. They are slick, kind, charming, whatever they need to be to get you to respect them. Your average narcissist will look like an a$$hole standing next to someone with NPD who is trying to make a good impression. Most with NPD do not come out from behind the mask until they are very close to you.
They guard their inner world every second of every day. They are directing a movie in which they are the lead actor and the director. They manipulate their words, emotions, and thoughts in order to create a self that is ideal. They are utterly fake, but do not even know it. You will never see what is inside of them, until they act out in such a way that contradicts all that you thought they stood for.
VirginiaEsquire wrote:Beautifully stated. This should be required reading for everyone who wonders about Narcissism.
Two of the biggest myths about NPDs are 1) that NPDs are just selfish, spoiled people who don't think of you because they're selfish and spoiled, and 2) that NPDs are totally awesome people who are so rich, handsome, and lucky that their lives have been a cakewalk and they like to lord it over everyone else. The truth is far different. Most NPDs aren't going to be identified as a man-child throwing a temper tantrum, or as a rich, handsome guy talking about how awesome he is. True Narcissism is something that afflicts an individual from the inside. The NPD is not just someone spoiled, shallow, and vain, it's someone tortured on the inside by lifelong fear, and by an unyielding superego. The NPD is more likely to be the middle-aged chubby guy in the board room than the hot movie star. The NPD's actions are motivated by his own internal torture, and they come out in ways that are subtle so that they remain unidentified by most people. That's why so many people are turned into emotional wrecks by NPDs. If the NPD was just a silly overgrown spoiled child, they wouldn't have the ability to do the real psychological damage that they do.
katana wrote:Is anyone potentially afraid of being (or being seen as) that spoilt child? Has anyone been treated as if they were a spoilt child if they ever tried to get recognised/validated/praised, etc. ? If anyone is, being afraid of being that way or being seen that way doesn't mean that you are like that btw. The same way being afraid of being a histrionic wouldn't make me one.
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