HPD ex-wife

I'm so glad I found this site. My wife completely crushed me last September out of the blue after 7 years with no complaints. She took our young children (5yo & 2yo) out of the marital home and moved in with her parents in another county over an hour away, and then filed for divorce 10 days later. All of her family and friends completely excommunicated me, and I was left devastated and extremely confused. Since then she has treated the father of her children as if I'm some kind of vicious animal and simultaneously the worst person on earth. It took me several months to stop blaming myself for what happened. I didn't do anything to her. And after several more months of praying for real answers, a PhD psychologist who I paid $2k to analyze both of us came back and indicated that she has a marked elevation on the Histrionic scale, coupled with a rejection of the traditional female role. I felt so vindicated, because it finally all made total sense. I read the wiki post about HPD and felt as if it was written specifically for my wife!

Problem now is even though I pushed for a custody assessment, the FOC and the judge both sided with her. I counted 147 lies about me in all the documentation from all the evaluators and her attorney. I've seen my children a total of 32 days in the past 6 months. I know she needs help, but none of them believe me and agree with her that I am to blame for the failure of our marriage. The judge agreed with the FOC and gave her sole legal and sole physical custody of my children. I have been completely screwed and there's nothing I can do but move on. Every loving attempt I've made to communicate with her has been perceived as harassment, and she even tried to get a PPO on me after I texted her to ask if I could visit my 2yo daughter on Valentine's Day.

After reading a bunch of posts on here, it sounds like the HPD might eventually turn off the ultra-hate they created and swing 180 degrees? Is that common or rare for them to change their mind? I'm pretty sure I don't want her back, but I'd do anything for my children.

Or am I simply doomed to be hated by her for the rest of my life? I miss my children more than anything..... LINK TO OTHER SITE REMOVED

Link to the thread I have on the HPD forum....

http://www.psychforums.com/histrionic-personality/topic109012.html