How are you today thread (trigger warning)

Princess-Ann,

We try to understand why people come and why people go as they do. Our life is slow and quiet on the outside, so the cause doesn't seem to be external. Our sysyem isn't structured to facilitate communication between the Front and Inner-world, but we can work on that, I suppose.

Too sleepy to say more, though there is more to say. (Yesterday was quite a day, followed by a long night. Back to bed for us!)

- Imre and company

trying to stay calm and not freak out.
we have a new situation inside, something we haven't seen before.
i am going up the walls cause i think that i need to do something quickly.
tomorrow we see the T. looking around... no danger.
i need to calm down.

Hey Annette. I've been there. Being a Protector makes you really hurt when things go wrong. Even if something is wrong it's ok to calm down. Calm protectors make good decisions.

Good luck,

Colin

Hi Annette

Hoping your night turned out OK and that your visit to the T helps sort things out a bit.

Be calm (vigilant if you need, but calm) ... Brett

last week we tried to help a PTSD friend who was facing a serious situation in her family.
we tried to make her listen to us and calm down, get inside her window of tolerance. because she just got frantic, but the mind didnt work well enough for real problem solving.
it taught us a great deal about how important it is, in any situation, to stay calm. especially when you desperately need a solution.
the more time you waste with going crazy the longer it takes...
L&A

i'm new here so i still feel a little bit awkward i guess. but today has been very stressful. lots of switching and internal voices clouding up things a ton. ive been under a lot of stress and the others are adding onto it and i feel kinda like its out of control especially because theres a lot of important stuff i have to do but everyone else just wants to do their own thing (which is usually self destructive or avoiding responsibilities.) i just hope tomorrow is a better day

I was wondering why I'm addicted to a discussion forum, where I mostly argue about mostly irrelevant stuff (as do most of them there). One reason is that since I was a little child I haven't been able to tolerate reality, I read books ALL the time, even when I was getting a haircut. Or then I was fantazising about boys (and as an adult, men). For a long time I thought if I just could get a boyfriend everything would be fine but of course I didn't need a boyfriend but a therapist.) So besides being angry all the time, hence needing to argue with people, I also can't just "be". Well I can but then I'm in a trance, not present per se, whatever that means. I guess I don't have very good contact with myselves, hence the anger and the trance and the constant boredom. Apparently you need empathy to have a connection. But I seem to first need someone i. e professional helper to give ME enough empathy before I can generate it myself.

Now I also realize why I have always had to have someone who to fixate on, a friend or a celebrity, to give me an identity and connection and someone to target my anger on (mostly in my mind, but I do tend to get into arguments a lot. This is probably the BPD in me).

scharah,

Sounds like you understand this pretty good.

"I seem to first need someone i. e professional helper to give ME enough empathy before I can generate it myself."

Good way to put it. That's what they are supposed to do. Good luck.

Colin

Today is our company picnic. For the second consecutive year, we took a vacation day.

[Various protectors: Ya, we dont need that sh*t.]

MDs

Yeah! Company picnics. Company xmas parties. Happy hour with the office. Protector's nightmare. Working overtime! You're right. Don't need that sh*t!

Colin