No new news.I come from an abusive household.Targeted child.Minimized and devalued.Im an adult now,living my life,carrying alot of baggage.Angry,agitated,sad,looking for peace of mind and soul.I am wondering if and HOW this would be true..That LIKE attracts LIKE..?All of my BFs were horribly abusive..Even a regular female friend was.Why would I be drawn to abusive people when that is the very thing I have been running from all my life?Stumps me.Makes no sense.I hate abuse.Despise abuse and bullying,yet I dated such abusive men ..(just like dad).And I bent backwards for these men.Loved them.Tried to please them and make things work.Always in denial about my relationships.Kept trying.Was I using them as a sustitute,still trying to make my father happy?even though he despised me?If I could make it work with these men,would I be able to make it work with my abuser?Or was I just desperately looking for a void to fill,and the 1st derelict that came along would fill it?I refuse to date at this point.Why should I?All I will do is fall back into the same system...the system of abuse.Oh the horrible people who have entered into my life.I just dont understand why.I am now looking for empowerment and taking my own life back.We all have it within us.xx

It's a well known phenomenon.

Abuse affects kids on a horrible level. So many adults who've been through abuse end up only getting stimulated by more abuse.

TY for the comment!What you said is so true.Plus being products of our enviorment,we are drawn towards what we know.Abuse is the norm for us becuase that is all we know,even years later as adults,when we can grasp the concept,I think psychologically we still are drawn back to what was imprinted on us in our early lives.