I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and it has been great. Until recently when he gets really mad he starts verbally abusing me. Its worse when he's been drinking. I do have bi-polar issues, but nothing to the point for him to say the things he says to me. He picks on my weight, and the way I look. He brings up past girlfriends and compares me to them. He brings my parents relationship into our situations (my parents do not have a good relationship.) He tells me woman are beneath men, and he wants me to be submissive. He wants me to not talk back, and to do and act as he says. He always tells me he hates my personality and wants me to change completely. I do get mad when he stays out late, or when he goes out a lot. But I never come to the point to pick on him and put him down. He lost his little brother in August, so I think that might have something to do with it. But last night I was mad that his ex wrote on his facebook, and he basically stood up for her and was bragging about her. I told him I don't want any girls he has history with to be talking to him, and he said I'm crazy and who cares. He even told me where in his room he has had sex with her. I have a history of cutting myself, and I have done it twice while being with him. He threatened me that if I did it again he would leave me, so I stopped. But when we argue he just tells me to go do it and no one cares. Right after he yells at me, he hugs me and tells me he loves me. Its starting to get physical, and I really don't want to get to that point. I don't wanna leave him because I do love him.