The 7 Stages of Grief after the end of a relationship

It really does help on here, i'm not sure if it's the faceless thing or what it is but it does help

I've found a few more on facebook to do with strength etc but my family always comment on the things i put on there and then he see's etc (mostly are digs at him hahahaha)

I've had a really bad day today but i just get annoyed with myself when that happens as i feel like i've gone backwards but the support i have is amazing and they are helping loads (it's just a shame i'm going though it ) but i did say today that unfortunately i'm not the first and i won't be the last i'm just still looking for this flaming light at the end of this bloody long tunnel as i know it's there i just can't see it yet.

I'm going to nick the happiness one and put that on fb i think hahahaha

Thanks for replying

I am not an expert but FB has blocking features if you need them...
You are right, there are so many people living in, trying to repair and trying to recover from relationships gone bad, it is nearly an epidemic!
Keep you head up, keep trying to make yourself happy and the rest should work its self out one way or another...

And the same to you

You've managed to turn your life around, and that's fantastc.

I will get there it just takes me ages hahahaha, i do seem to be smiling a little more each day (with the help of the kids and my mum) but still with my head whirling and the silly questions, i need to stop all the silly questions

It does seem to be like that and it's such a shame as no one seems to work at any thing these days and they give up to quickly, (well in my opinion!) that's one thing that no one can say about me hahahaha even now i'm still fighting but even i know i can't do this forever and the eventually i will give up as well

It's not giving up...
It is realizing the fact that its the Universe making your plans, not you and allowing it to happen.
Each person and event that comes into you life is meant to teach or bring you some knowledge.
Sometimes we as humans, are not ready to see or learn what we are being shown or taught.
It just takes some of us a little longer.
I have heard this theory before but recently I have begun to believe in it and it has changed my life......
Clairl79, you seem to be coming along nicely, slowly but nicely.
I am sending out love and support for you to learn and grow from this and to become the most authentic self possible.
Do some research on "marble jar friends" and become your own marble jar friend.

"It's about forgiveness and giving thanks" to your self first!!

Turts

Day 37.

Over the past few days, I've been becoming more and more depressed.

The stuff I watch on TV lately is all about death, abandonment and betrayal. That's really not helping, but that's what's happening in all my favorite shows right now, and everything else makes me uncomfortable in less tolerable ways; not that I really have the attention span to focus on anything that isn't super emotional/dramatic, anyway.

I grabbed a picture of my ex from online (no, I'm not stalking him; I'm not that masochistic) and saved it to my phone. It scares me how much solace the photo gave me at first... or so I thought. I actually think that's around the time this wave of depression really bombed me. I decided not to keep any of his stuff because it would harm me to keep a representation or substitute of him in my life, be it a person or object. I cheated by grabbing that picture and I think the comfort it gave/gives me has consequences. I feel a tiny bit closer to him, and now I feel brand new pain.

I can keep exploring this. I can convince myself to keep the picture "just in case I 'need' to 'see' him". I can hope the picture isn't doing any real harm and try to wait this out, or hope I can find a tolerable and beneficial way to co-exist with the image.

Or I can just stop wasting my precious time, trash the picture, and go on about my business. If getting rid of his picture makes me feel anxious, then that just confirms my fears about keeping a symbol of him in my life in the first place. I'll get through the anxiety and get back on track.

It's time to say goodbye again.

Everything I need to remember him by is a part of me now. I don't need false idols sitting around making me feel like sh*t.

Havoctoria wrote:I can keep exploring this. I can convince myself to keep the picture "just in case I 'need' to 'see' him". I can hope the picture isn't doing any real harm and try to wait this out, or hope I can find a tolerable and beneficial way to co-exist with the image.

Or I can just stop wasting my precious time, trash the picture, and go on about my business. If getting rid of his picture makes me feel anxious, then that just confirms my fears about keeping a symbol of him in my life in the first place. I'll get through the anxiety and get back on track.

It's time to say goodbye again.

Everything I need to remember him by is a part of me now. I don't need false idols sitting around making me feel like sh*t.

Have you got people to talk to?
You need to speak to someone about your situation as there's people that can help you maybe a doctor? Family member or a friend? Someone that will just listen and not judge or have an opinion (unless that's what you need?)
I'm not a expert and i'm further on than you and in a very different situation, but i'm concerned about you if you want to talk or write things down then you can always pm me?

I still switch between six stages except acceptance :/ acceptance means suicide to me. I can't stop crying about my future and will to life that he has taken away without caring once about it.

Well yeah, stages are hard, though for everyone it's quite different in my opinion due to it strongly being dependent on how long you were in that relationship.

If only stages could mend a broken heart but I don't believe they truly work because no body has the secret of mending a broken heart.