I am 25 virgin guy who want sex, but too shy to get anywhere

Platypus wrote:I don't think being a virgin is a Sexual Dysfunction!
Relationships encompass more than romance and love. There is a Sexuality forum which is a sub-forum of this one, but it gets lets traffic. Rsystem, I am happy to move your post if you want me to, but I don't think there is a problem with its current location.

SparklyB wrote:I actually think that the key to finding someone and a relationship that will ultimately lead to intimacy and sex is to work on yourself.

You obviously have real social problems with interacting. I would look at these issues. Unless you are comfortable with yourself then you are never going to attract a member of the opposite sex. Maybe join some groups, a dance class could be good and could get used to being close to a woman, especially in a platonic way.

Women want to be with someone interesting and fun, not just someone who is good looking. (not true for all, but most) Think about the qualities you would like in a woman, think about building up friendships. Stop thinking about sex, it will come but only when you are comfortable with yourself. Women don't like men who are just eager for sex, they don't want to be used.

If you are truly desperate for sex and can't get it out of your head then maybe a trip to Nevada wouldn't go a miss. Once maybe you've got that initial issue out the way you will be able to relax. But I'm not sure this would work either. Once you've had sex, you will want it again and unless you're going to visit prostitutes a lot, then you really need to deal with the real issues you are having that make you unable to approach women.

Have you considered going to a councillor and talking your problems through. Maybe you could see someone professionally who can help you with the issues of your shyness.

Seleste wrote:I noticed you sated previously that you have a hard time trying to make the first move and that you want to ask permission to do things. To me you sound like a submissive. Maybe you just need to find a dominant girl?

That's just my two cents from the little i know of the bdsm terms.

I'm also slightly confused as to why this is in the Relationships forum when you say you don't want a relationship. Though this can be ignored it's just my curiosity speaking. Maybe you could get more feedback in the Sexual Dysfunctions Forum?

dhammapal wrote:Dear Rsystem,

If you want to be able to overcome your powerful sexual desire then I suggest making large cash donations to the Rape Crisis Center. It worked for me. And use medical terminology for parts of the anatomy e.g. mammary glands.

If that fails I suggest you see a sex therapist. They can refer you to a “surrogate”, a woman who is not a prostitute but will go out to dinner with virgins and have sex with them afterwards.

Regards / dhammapal.

PS You can read my thread Should I see a sex therapist? in the Sexual dysfunctions forum.

4horsegal wrote:Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet?
Is what you are looking for really just sex or do you want an actual long term relationship with someone you love?

Most women want trust and friendship first before anything happens physically. I also think you will be much more comfortable if it is someone you like and know. Maybe try asking one of your friends out on a date? Who knows? Maybe they like you and just don't want to be rejected by you?

I think you should be looking for someone who has common interests and goals and enjoys some of the same things you do.

I don't understand the comments about prostitution. Personally, I find that revolting. You could catch something.

Socialretard wrote:

4horsegal wrote:I don't understand the comments about prostitution. Personally, I find that revolting. You could catch something.

Some guys cant get girls so prostitution is the only option. You can just as easily get a STD from a normal girl. A prostitute might even be safer cuz she prob gonna make u where a rubber. What is so revolting about it?