I am 25 virgin guy who want sex, but too shy to get anywhere

dhammapal wrote:

dhammapal wrote:Dear Rsystem,

If you want to be able to overcome your powerful sexual desire then I suggest making large cash donations to the Rape Crisis Center. It worked for me. And use medical terminology for parts of the anatomy e.g. mammary glands.

If that fails I suggest you see a sex therapist. They can refer you to a “surrogate”, a woman who is not a prostitute but will go out to dinner with virgins and have sex with them afterwards.

Regards / dhammapal.

PS You can read my thread Should I see a sex therapist? in the Sexual dysfunctions forum.

How come everyone ignored my post?

Best wishes / dhammapal (41 year old virgin)

Dont worry I read that.

I cant believe there are women that are willing to help guys in that way!

dhammapal wrote:

dhammapal wrote:Dear Rsystem,

If you want to be able to overcome your powerful sexual desire then I suggest making large cash donations to the Rape Crisis Center. It worked for me. And use medical terminology for parts of the anatomy e.g. mammary glands.

If that fails I suggest you see a sex therapist. They can refer you to a “surrogate”, a woman who is not a prostitute but will go out to dinner with virgins and have sex with them afterwards.

Regards / dhammapal.

PS You can read my thread Should I see a sex therapist? in the Sexual dysfunctions forum.

How come everyone ignored my post?

Best wishes / dhammapal (41 year old virgin)

I thought about your post a bit, but not sure it will help. Remember my dream right now is more like being Playboy and having sex hot girls till I grow old! Maybe sex surrogate may help, but I not sure about finding one in Dallas. Personally, I rather get a hot escort.

-- Fri Aug 12, 2011 7:36 pm --

pheonixrise wrote:

Socialretard wrote:

4horsegal wrote:I don't understand the comments about prostitution. Personally, I find that revolting. You could catch something.

Some guys cant get girls so prostitution is the only option. You can just as easily get a STD from a normal girl. A prostitute might even be safer cuz she prob gonna make u where a rubber. What is so revolting about it?

The better prostitutes have to regularly be STD checked, as well as being on birth control and using condoms. So if you decide to pay for a good one, you're no more likely to get an STD (or become a father) then if you sleep with a friend.

OP, if you're after a relationship, take risks. Most girls prefer it when a guy makes the first move. It might help you to look into body language, then you may be able to see the signals that girls give when they are interested.

If you're after sex, either go for a trip to a state where prostitution is legal, or go out to clubs/pubs/parties, and get yourself a one-night stand.

Making excuses gets you no where. Waiting around might get you somewhere eventually, and in the meantime you have the same problem.

In response to all three of you, including 4horsegal. One problem is, I am seem to want something different frequently. For example take this week:

1.) On Sunday/Monday of this week I didn't care about girls or sex at all. Could less at that point I remained a virgin.
2.) In middle of week (Wednesday/Thursday), I wanted a hot girlfriend to have sex with and maybe even fall in love!
3.) Now at end of week, Friday, I am craving for sex only. I honestly right now want to have sex with as many hot girls as possible.

The sex craving usually get me be badly. When I start having I can't stop thinking about sex!

Rsystem wrote: One problem is, I am seem to want something different frequently. For example take this week:

1.) On Sunday/Monday of this week I didn't care about girls or sex at all. Could less at that point I remained a virgin.
2.) In middle of week (Wednesday/Thursday), I wanted a hot girlfriend to have sex with and maybe even fall in love!
3.) Now at end of week, Friday, I am craving for sex only. I honestly right now want to have sex with as many hot girls as possible.

The sex craving usually get me be badly. When I start having I can't stop thinking about sex!

That sounds pretty normal to me Rcsystem.

I think phoenixrise said it well here:

pheonixrise wrote:Making excuses gets you no where. Waiting around might get you somewhere eventually, and in the meantime you have the same problem.

What have you got to lose by being proactive and doing something about the situation?

I think phoenixrise said it well here:

pheonixrise wrote:Making excuses gets you no where. Waiting around might get you somewhere eventually, and in the meantime you have the same problem.

What have you got to lose by being proactive and doing something about the situation?[/quote]

I have sharpened my social skills a lot. As mentioned a lot people I interact with can't believe I am shy or introverted! I actually made some good friend along way, including with some attractive girls. That said somehow I just can't get around to asking a girl out...

I have also done extensive research on escorts, including the legal services provided in Neveda or Amsterdam. I am pretty sure I know how to navigate my way through escort if I choose to go that route.

You seem unsure what it is you want. Asking a girl out and hiring an escort or prostitute is not the same thing. You can of course pursue both goals if that's what you want, but I don't think they should be seen as interchangeable.

I'd stop researching, and do some more soul-searching. What is it you want to change about your life? What are you really looking for? (You don't have to answer here, but I hope that you can find more clarity in your desires for sex and love.)

broski, you may want to sleep with A girl before hoping on the threesome train. If you dont know what to do with one girl you sure as hell wont know what to do with 2.

Your putting the pussy on a pedestal. GIRLS ARE HUMAN BEINGS. They just have fattier chests, and nothing flopping between there legs. Nothing to be afraid of. They wont eat you, unless you want them to .

your nervous because you havnt done it before. Think of everything in your life you did for the first time. were you nervous before doing it? im gonna answer and say probably yes. whatd you do? just did it , probably sucked ass the first time, but eventually you got better, right? its the same exact thing. First time you drove a car, were you nervous? probably. whatd ya do? just did it. and gues what you lived.

I was like ya in high school, until my senior year. I JUST DID IT. i asked a chica to homecoming because i wanted to at least try once before high school was over. and i did it. I got rejected, and im a fairly good lookin kid. Doesnt take a rocket scientist to know good lookin guys will get rejected to. NOONE is safe fro mrejection. oh well, next one. Girls dont usually handshake unless your at a business meeting, so when you greet or depart open your hands for a hug. Nothing to it, theyll give ya a hug youll start talkin and go about business.

if your deathly shy, take a few shots first. Go to a party, get tipsy, loosin up and flirt some. I would advise against "Can i bone you?" but just flirt, dance, make moves. Its what i did, and after doin it once, itll be easier sober. From my experience girls drink at bars/parties for an excuse to ###$. Why else would some of my friends be bringing guys to THEIR apartment and never mentioning them again, if they didnt wanna just ###$. well, they told me. They wanted to ###$. stereotypes are bad, mmkay.

ignore what everyone says, Sex only has the value you put into it. Its an act. you add the love to it. anyone who says sex is for someone you love, thats an opinion, thats how they view sex, thats not how sex IS. They added that fluff to sex for their own morals etc.

decide for yourself if sex is simply an act of bang, skeet, sleep. Or osmething deeper, a dance of love, a connection of souls. or blah blah.

-- Thu Sep 08, 2011 6:19 am --

Rsystem wrote:1.) On Sunday/Monday of this week I didn't care about girls or sex at all. Could less at that point I remained a virgin.
2.) In middle of week (Wednesday/Thursday), I wanted a hot girlfriend to have sex with and maybe even fall in love!
3.) Now at end of week, Friday, I am craving for sex only. I honestly right now want to have sex with as many hot girls as possible.

The sex craving usually get me be badly. When I start having I can't stop thinking about sex!

then compromise, find a GF and have sex with her. im sure she wont leave you if you want a day or two off, hell she may want a few days off. all three of those are satisfied.

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Inappropriate comment. This is not a dating/hook-up site.*

I know this thread is a little old, but I wanted to throw this out there...

Rsystem, please realize the first time you have sex, you're probably going to blow your load in a minute or two. You might not want to do this with a hot girl that you're trying to impress. I don't think anyone could even manage having a threesome their first time having sex... I can't even picture myself doing that now, even though I have a good amount of experience. Especially since you can't really handle even touching a girl, if you got to sex with one, you could possibly blow it in seconds due to how nervous and tense you'll be.

Start off by working up the attractiveness ladder. All guys want to bone a smokin' hot chick, but especially considering it's your first time, you shouldn't really be so picky about what you want. Find a girl that is... not the most attractive person you've ever seen, and try to get with her. You want to start with the mediocre girls before you can work up to the hot ones, so that way, you've built plenty of self-confidence and courting skills by the time you get there.