Why don't we meet each other...in real life?

SkeptikalObserver wrote:It's pretty hard to put trust in others with the witchhunt mentality that goes on against the fringes these days. Also that whole catch a predator nonsense, show up to meet for coffee and hansen and a camera crew pop out of nowheres lol. Or it could be an undercover fed looking for a good patsy to push into a crime or attrocity. Lots of crazy in the world to look out for these days.

I definitely agree. That is where the paranoia comes from. But I'm personally at the point where I am saying ###$ it. I don't want to let this witchhunt mentality keep me from meeting other people suffering from the same thing as me.

I am currently on a voluntary sex offenders course and we are expressly told not to have any contact outside of the group because the police "take a very dim view of it". So you are supposed to pour your heart out and disclose the most private of things with others who are going through the same as you but any on going mutual support is forbidden. As for people with paraphilias meeting up to form real world friendships, I assure you that you will be placed under suspicion as soon as you do that. The only view our small minded society seems to be capable of having is that you are meeting up for no onther reason than to collude to rape and murder little kids. The suggestion that you want to support each other in not offending and living a decent and good life is impossible for most people to believe.

We could still try it. If nothing else there's safety in numbers should we be attacked. :0

I've always wanted a fellow Pedo friend. It's almost a fantasy in itself! I'm super jealous of people who have groups of friends who are on the same page.

Here's to hoping for one day! =)

I would LOVE this. I really need to connect with someone. Unfortunately, many of you are pretty far away. I'm in west central Indiana if anyone is nearby.

Because I am extremely paranoid and would not trust any of you to not be people just looking for a pedo so you can cut my throat and leave me to die in a dumpster.

322 wrote:Because I am extremely paranoid and would not trust any of you to not be people just looking for a pedo so you can cut my throat and leave me to die in a dumpster.

Very valid point, we can add to that: you can't trust anyone on a forum to not be NSA/FBI/Catch a predator types who mean to coerce you into wrongdoing - not all who visit this forum will be invulnerable to that.

I met a guy on here nearly four years ago and we've been friends in real life for ages. At first we spoke on the phone and he has come to stay twice. We support each other and it's otherwise a normal friendship, albeit with the obstacle of geographical distance (he's in the north of England, I'm in the south). So in my experience it can work well, but I'm very guarded about giving out personal information.

Anyone from the south of England here? I know two who are within 100 miles of me.

cumulusjames wrote:I am currently on a voluntary sex offenders course and we are expressly told not to have any contact outside of the group because the police "take a very dim view of it". So you are supposed to pour your heart out and disclose the most private of things with others who are going through the same as you but any on going mutual support is forbidden. As for people with paraphilias meeting up to form real world friendships, I assure you that you will be placed under suspicion as soon as you do that. The only view our small minded society seems to be capable of having is that you are meeting up for no onther reason than to collude to rape and murder little kids. The suggestion that you want to support each other in not offending and living a decent and good life is impossible for most people to believe.

Sadly I agree with James, also being on a sex offender course we are told not to socialize with other sex offenders certainly if you have been convicted it is not worth the suspicion and the trouble it would cause. In most cases or recovery and support for example alcohol dependency people often have a support group to be able to meet and call when they need help often another alcoholic and that is OK, for anyone in our situation it will never work because everything is about protecting children from everyone and not doing enough to allow people struggling with thoughts or desires to get help to minimize the chance of offending, there is next to no help for people until they have been convicted.

It would be great to have someone who truly can understand what you are going through (but practically impossible) to talk to in real life.

Or perhaps that's just what they want you to think, that you're a perpetual danger who shouldn't be in touch with other offenders, because you'll only be a bad influence on each other. In reality it's probably because in numbers you'd start to have a voice that would rival that of the 'establishment'.

I haven't ever committed an offence though, so it may be that I'm projecting onto the situation a degree of certainty regarding how safe I am onto others who have offended.