Why don't we meet each other...in real life?

mrms99 wrote:Interesting that a lot of people in this forum are out of the UK . When I read erotica, there are a lot of UK references.

I am in Southern California , USA.

Anyone interested in meeting, I am all for it.

In the UK there is no such website and I found this one purely by accident in the darker days and have been around ever since, I would disagree with cumulusjames though, this is a community.

I'm not sure this is a community. In a community I could pop round to get support and love from my fellow humans. Anonymous chat via the barrier of a screen is not the same. Though I am glad I found this place, I almost struggle to fit in here since I am not a paedophile. But I hope in extending non-judgemental understanding to the fellows on here, it will be returned. And largely it has been.

cumulusjames wrote:I'm not sure this is a community. In a community I could pop round to get support and love from my fellow humans. Anonymous chat via the barrier of a screen is not the same. Though I am glad I found this place, I almost struggle to fit in here since I am not a paedophile. But I hope in extending non-judgemental understanding to the fellows on here, it will be returned. And largely it has been.

This is of course only a virtual community, but I have had help and support from members here, some who are not paedophiles even

When I suffered three bereavements close together the support was mainly from non-paedophiles and truthfully astounded me in how genuine and loving it was, I've offered advice and support to people with paraphilias I cannot possibly understand but I try; and really isn't that all that we as humans can do, try?

You seem to be polite and nonjudgemental and that again is all we can hope for, you understand the difference between a child abuser and a paedophile, something a large proportion of the population refuses to acknowledge.

I've been feeling really alone with my sexuality over the past few days. I want to live in a society in which I can be totally open about it. Even though a lot of my real-life friends are educated and open-minded, most of them have kids, and so I feel I can't just be myself because otherwise they might get unnecessarily protective and I'd be at risk of losing friends and never having any contact whatsoever with girls, which would make my life feel exceedingly impoverished.

Sorry to hear that dude, usually you are a bright light so when you are low it must be getting to you

Friends with open minds can be surprisingly open even with kids in the picture, the friends that I told have a daughter and tell me that they are not even a little bit worried about me being around her.

Cheer up dudester, eventually we will all be dead and none of this will have been even slightly important

It really sucks what cumulusjames says. What kind of support are we offering as society?

I'm sorry it is that way. I want to do my part to change it.

I would love to meet, but I don't live in the States or England. I'm not a pedophile either, I don't know if anyone with like to meet knowing that.

I do think this is a community, and for what it's worth, I have learnt a huge deal. I am now raisin awareness of the difference between a pedophile and a child abuser.

Yeah, I'm sorry to read that as well ctithe. How would you feel less lonely?

PNL2 wrote:Sorry to hear that dude, usually you are a bright light so when you are low it must be getting to you

Definitely. I'm emotionally exhausted due to lots of stress factors in my life at present, and when I feel like this my sexuality feels like an intolerable encumbrance.

PNL2 wrote:Friends with open minds can be surprisingly open even with kids in the picture, the friends that I told have a daughter and tell me that they are not even a little bit worried about me being around her.

Perhaps it's because deep down I want to get as close to them as possible. I had one of my daughter's friends on my lap recently. She's very physically affectionate. She was nuzzling my face and telling me how much she would miss me when she went home. I was careful not to cross a line, but it felt great to enjoy this mutual affection. Very healthy for both of us. I doubt that situation could have happened if her parents were aware of my sexuality.

PNL2 wrote:Cheer up dudester, eventually we will all be dead and none of this will have been even slightly important

Now there's a steeling thought.

Seangel wrote:Yeah, I'm sorry to read that as well ctithe. How would you feel less lonely?

Real life friends who are either paedophiles or sympathetic. Preferably in the same city as me so that I can meet up regularly without having to check diaries and plan days or weeks ahead. Remember when you were a kid and you just nipped round your friend's house with a football after dinner? That level of spontaneity, but with paedophiles.

I'll only come if there's lots of alcohol and music to dance to.

ctithe wrote:Real life friends who are either paedophiles or sympathetic. Preferably in the same city as me so that I can meet up regularly without having to check diaries and plan days or weeks ahead. Remember when you were a kid and you just nipped round your friend's house with a football after dinner? That level of spontaneity, but with paedophiles.

Get it.

The story you just told about your daughter's friend, I can totally see your point. Your story makes me open my mind. Thanks for sharing.

I truly wish our world was more open minded, less judgmental.

ctithe wrote:Definitely. I'm emotionally exhausted due to lots of stress factors in my life at present, and when I feel like this my sexuality feels like an intolerable encumbrance.

Been there and still there at varying stages of the days and weeks, so I know how hard that can be, have a virtual >HUG<

ctithe wrote:Perhaps it's because deep down I want to get as close to them as possible. I had one of my daughter's friends on my lap recently. She's very physically affectionate. She was nuzzling my face and telling me how much she would miss me when she went home. I was careful not to cross a line, but it felt great to enjoy this mutual affection. Very healthy for both of us. I doubt that situation could have happened if her parents were aware of my sexuality.

Yeah it can be as beautiful as it is emotionally shattering, while in the moment it is the greatest single moment of your life and then just like that it is over, worse when you have to wonder if somebody else noticed it and took it for more than it was sexually.

ctithe wrote:Now there's a steeling thought.

I do my best to be an uplifting source of support

ctithe wrote:Real life friends who are either paedophiles or sympathetic. Preferably in the same city as me so that I can meet up regularly without having to check diaries and plan days or weeks ahead. Remember when you were a kid and you just nipped round your friend's house with a football after dinner? That level of spontaneity, but with paedophiles.

I would love this but am severely hampered by not having a car or the right to drive one, so my level of sponteniety is decided by the rail and bus companies, but just to be able to meet up and talk about something as normal to us as the guys who meet in the pub to play pool and shoot the breeze.