Repost for help from males!!!!!! please

i have been in the EXACT same spot as you are now.
and i am straight so i think you know the answer

what did you do to get out of this spot? it's awful , I feel like it's ruining my life, which once was happy and I enjoyed life, it has turned into an obssession of worry and I can go thorugh no day without thinking of it.

Your post has somewhat cheered me up but tomorrow morning I will feel exactly as I was earlier - incredibly anxious

i dind't realy do anything.....i kept bein,g obsessed by it (it was also ruing my life) and after a while i stopped ginving a crap about if i was gay or not....when i stopped giving a crap i also stopped looking for reansurance (liek you do with this post) , stopped checking, etc etc and then i disepeared.

i just was like hey where the hell did the stress and axiety go ? its gone? whatever its good that way .
( the false attraction also disepeared)

then 1 day later i started to think if might not be a pedo....and this is ruing my life now....the pedo theme is even worse and it seems to be real...... ;(

well i hope i helped you good luck to you
if you cant beat it on yourself you should talk to a therapist.

I just couldn't stand being gay, as I said I've never had the thought of being gay up until 3 months ago...just want some tips on what to do to get rid of them

You could go out and pursue a relationship with a girl. When thigns become 'steady', appreciate the beautiful body that ladies have and then you might know a bit better as to whether you are homosexual or not...

Kevin

how can i? I have been rejected like 7 times, I have touched a girl in the gentialia department and I got a very hard boner:L but no girl would pursue a relationship, I also think this couold be one of the reasons why I have these thoughts

You can keep trying. I have been rejected quite a few times too, but I have had my fair share of partners. Rejection is something we go through, but that's not the issue here. You could also try looking at porn to see how you feel. The fact that you are worrying so intensely about being homosexual just leads me to believe that you aren't [homosexual].

Now go out there and do what feels right.

Kevin

Only ever had one girlfriend and it wasn't serious at all in fact I was only 13, I feel like I've missed out on relationships and I've always wanted one.

Lesbian porn turns me on a lot, but gay used to but I stopped after like the 10th time because I felt so guilty afterwards, I don't usually watch straight porn because I don't get the kick really. Now though, after I've ejaculted I get the recurring thoughts and worries of being homosexual which I don't want at all, masturbation makes me re-think these for some reason, like it's enjoyable through the masturbation, but after my mind just re-thinks about the depressive worries.

I really don't know what feels right my friend.

Callum

people of a young age and with bad dating history are most likely the victems of HOCD and POCD.
so make your conclussion.

for tips:
- accept the possibility that you may be gay (not that you are gay)
- when a thought comes up dont try to disprove the thought just let it be and say in ur head "i might be gay"
-dont dig up things from the past that proves that you are or are not gay.
- dont test , check, compare.
- dont search any more information about this topic.


me reading your mind:
i think you have done the following things (let me know if im wrong or right):

- checked gay porn to see if you get aroused and then compared to lesbian/straigt porn
- did those multiple-choice-question- tests to see if you are gay or not
- compared your fingers to see if you are gay or not.
- dig up things from the past that proove that ur not gay.
- dig up things from the past to proove that you are gay.


so how am i doing at it i made any mistakes ?

how did you know? I've done everyone of those things! What to do?