Repost for help from males!!!!!! please

i know because i did the same haha but exactly the same. all people with HOCD do that. gay people dont.

what to do ?
follow the tips i gave. an try to stay off this forum.

thankyou, I'll email you if I'm in trouble

ok good
GL

Why can't I see your email address anymore?

Also, I am sleeping at my mates tonight, and I just wanted to know how I can't worry about it, because it gets in the way of fun as well (no pun intended)

you cant stop worrying about it just like that....
if you ahve some real fun over there you might be distracted from all this and then you wont worry about it but if you go in the house already worrying then you will porobebly worry the whole night and it will ruin your night.
the only thing that you can is " accept the possibility"

ok I had fun earlier and didn't worry, but now I've sat down and thinking about it, I don't want to accept the possibility because I don't want to be.

Well you have to...
You need to accept the possibility.
When i have a fear and i think it is an new OCD theme then i ask other people if it is OCD or not. After asking that once...i stop doing that otherwise i will become addicted to reansurance.
So do not ask for reansurance!

Ok now: you need to accept the possibilty so that you wont be afraid anymore of being gay. Once you arent afraid anymore the obsession, urge to check, false attractions, stress, etc etc will disapear.

Ok this may be a stupid analog but maybe you understand it better like this:
Imagine you are watching a realy scary movie with a scary monster in it. When the movie is over you go to bed but you are afraid that the monster is in the dark of the room. You know that it isn't possible but you still fear it, that is impossible for a monster to be in your room doesnt comfort you and you are still scared. So you turn on the lights to prove that there is no monster.
If you woulnt fear the monster then you wouldnt think of it. Because it wouldnt bother you.

You know that you arent gay ( the fact from the past say that you arent). But you are still afraid that you might be gay. And because you fear it, you think of it.
And you check and test to prove that you arent gay ( turn on light to prove theres no monster)
And if you wouldnt be afraid of it and just be ok with it then you wouldnt obsess d stress over it.

So what you need to do is stop being afraid of the possibility that you may be gay. When you stop obssessing about it and stop fearing it and stop giving a $#%^ and accept the possibility. Then your HOCD will disapear. Keep denying that you're gay and keep fighting it won't help it will only fuel your OCD with even more doubts.

I know that you probebly got stress ( spike ) when i said "accept the possibility that you might be gay"
Sorry for that. You arent gay you have HOCD.

Ps: if you ask me if you are gay i will say yes, because i reansured you now that you arent but i wont do it again, it will only make your HOCD worse.

ok i get you, thanks a lot, whats your email address? and btw I am dreading trying to think that I might be gay, I hate it

i'll send youi my e-mail in a PM .

I hate this I tried to stay off this forum.but it got worse, I havent enjoyed my summer holidays one bit cos of this. Help