Repost for help from males!!!!!! please

what others would think, I couldn't stand being gay (no offence), I just want it how it was before

What would it matter if you were homosexual? They are 'everywhere' these days and there is nothing wrong with them. your fear of them just sets-in-stone in my mind that you are - in fact - not homosexual. You should aim to abolish/conquer your fears, no matter what each individual fear is about.

Kevin

how can i do this though?

I want to be rid of them forever

Also you two, bit of a personal question, do you know after I;ve masturbated? Why do I always get the thoughts running through my head after and the worries come back?

I couldn't really tell you, i'm asexual. Last time i took a hand to myself i can't even remember. But i assume it's learned behavior. You seem to have acquired associations of guilt with sex so when you have masturbated that guilt ploinks down on you.

In the end, life is in your head. Not out there. Reality is neutral, it has no morals. It's up to you to decide how you want to perceive reality. Personally i'd prefer not to have a life filled with guilt, so i'd change my perspective. Care less what others think and already being gay or not is less important.

Chucky can you help with this? seen as your eterosexual

One more thing, for some reason my mind tells me, when I see a guy that girls would think look attractive, my mind says oh he's good looking, but I don't really say this and, the anxiety comes back even more, but I don't and never have found guys attractive and when I look at a girl and say oh she's nice looking, my mind tells me you don't think she is good looking really, your just saying it.

Callum1995help wrote:Chucky can you help with this? seen as your eterosexual

I am heterosexual. Asexual just means you can have sex when choose to not because you have too. Since i am in a relationship since my early teens masturbation is not a thing i need (or want) to do.

Callum1995help wrote:One more thing, for some reason my mind tells me, when I see a guy that girls would think look attractive, my mind says oh he's good looking, but I don't really say this and, the anxiety comes back even more, but I don't and never have found guys attractive and when I look at a girl and say oh she's nice looking, my mind tells me you don't think she is good looking really, your just saying it.

It might just be you find guys attractive. Which is not a big deal. If so best is to work with that instead of fight against it. We still haven't found out WHY you fear people knowing you might be gay.

Is your family or your community not openminded? There are no openly gay people around? If there are see how they are accepted. Maybe your fear is baseless.

I just dont get it, I dont find guys attractive at least I dont think I do, I just want to go back to how I was,

There are several possibilities. That's why at first i said by methodical. By process of elimination to arrive at the reason why you are confused.

We have established so far you are afraid of what people might think if you were to be gay but have less problems with the physical aspect of it. Personally, as a hetero, i feel exactly the inverse to how you do. I couldn't care less what people think but if find men really unattractive.

It seems like the fear of peoples reaction makes you feel guilty and that in turn confuses you sexually.

You describe guilt association with masturbation. You describe recurring fantasies about men. You say you would rather be attracted to women. That you have been so until lately.

Something somewhere in there caused this to happen. Did something happen at school or with your friends that started this?

Also, You are at an age where your personality starts forming. It's also possible you are discovering yourself. It's possible you like both sexes. I

Try and by methodical to get to the bottom of your issue.