
How do you define a 'host' for your system?
I feel that we all host at different times. Is it who is out the most?
I'll describe our system members a bit, and you tell me if you would classify that member as a Host OK?
MU - Is probably 'out' the most. She handles our mum & house duties (like paying bills & stuff. Adult stuff)
MB - is also a mum, but she's got social anxiety so is only normally out at home. If she's out when we are out & about she'll avoid social situations or switch to handle them.
Rowe - Is a crazy cat. She takes control & does all the wild teen stuff. I think music triggers her but I'm not sure. Most people we know in the real world have met her.
Asile - is great at defusing conflict. She comes out if there is an unexpected confrontation & get us out of it safely. Apart from that she's normally only out when we are alone because she's a new age vegetarian hippy & knows (from experience) that most people think her believed are strange.
Me (Emma) - I'm the confident Socialite.. I come out mostly when MB can't handle the social side of life. Or when social events are sprung on us unexpectedly (like when a friend comes to the door unexpectedly or when we run into people at the shops & whoever is out can't place the 'friend'.. I do a great job at hiding our confusion & making chit chat)
Stacy - Is a flirt.. She comes out when she sees a guy she likes/is attracted to or to basically to manipulate men into doing what she wants..
Georgie - Is a fighter & can be aggressive. She comes out when something reminds us of the abusers or when we are at home (she has OCD so checking locks & cleaning things mainly..)
TJ comes to the surface but not out (he holds all the cult information and training)
Tots is a dog & only comes out for a couple of seconds.. I usually find him growling/showing his teeth in the mirror at home..
The others are mainly internal/covert presentation.. Except maybe Becs & Mich who come out to play with the kids..
Would you call all of these 'hosts'? Because they all 'host' at times?
How do you define your system Hosts?
Do your alters play different roles externally to the ones they play internally?