how to tell friends?

Book would handle the visit. It went wrong. He couldn t handle hosts name to be called (which we solved by givin everyone two names)
then he didn t recognise hosts purse and book, forgot things, just stumbled along.
EMBARRASSING.

Elf (me) handled today. Friend said he could tell somethin was off. That he misses me as in the host. We both cried. He said, a part of you is missing; I feel like I have to get to know you again.

I don t know how to handle parents no more. Book did it, and kept keepin monologues which they didn t notice but others did.

We don t know how to handle social contact. Host was kind and social. We just don t....

And things are gone too. No more child wish, or just I miss her so much. and people are beginnin to notice too.

I am sorry you all are having such a hard time with her gone. But you know what? You can do this. And you're going to get much, much better at it too. Hang in there.

Nina11 wrote:Friend said he could tell somethin was off. That he misses me as in the host. We both cried. He said, a part of you is missing; I feel like I have to get to know you again.

This is a very perceptive friend. I think he may likely feel validated and reassured, even relieved, if you tell him his comments are accurate. Uncanny, really. Also, you might tell him you know what the problem is and you are working on it. He is likely to be wondering about that, and worried. Let that soak in, then perhaps you will feel ready to disclose to your friend what the problem is.

Meanwhile, think about how to disclose. When we are first coming to terms with it ourselves, often the message we convey about DID tends to be "I have terrible, sad news, I have discovered something awful" but then later our message becomes "Hey, you might find this interesting" and still later we may begin to say "I am feeling wonderful! The most amazing things are happening in my life right now."

i'm so sorry you're going through this. i hope things are able to improve for you all soon.


i don't know how helpful this will be, but here are some threads that might help with the aspect of telling other people about having DID:


** How do you tell someone you have DID?: http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic71699.html


** How to talk to others (about having DID): http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic102181.html


** Coming out to my parents: http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic105027.html


** Coming out, disclosing to people in our lives: http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic73586.html



- cassie (age ?)

I've explained how I did it once here:
dissociative-identity/topic108857.html#p1077933
Basically, leaving all 'multiple'/MPD stuff out and just tell from structural dissociation theory. I've not even mentioned the word 'Alter'. But my dissociation isn't that obvious (I think). you think ... ? More obvious than it seems to me? yes -fire ...
The last thread Cassie posted is a really good one!