Trust is a 5-Letter 4 Letter word

I posted this on here as well: dissociative-identity/topic109164.html

Sotrsab wrote:What I am looking for is a positive connection with HOST DIDs, one that will give us a sense of peace in knowing that we are not alone. This was not, is not, & will never be (in my druthers) a family/friends vacation 'group type' thing.

Also, SOs...maybe a good idea, but not what I was hoping for, especially for a 1st time visit, but I'm open to let the majority (hopefully, guided by their Ts, rule). If there are alters who are afraid, like littles, or young teens, whomever, maybe each of us could leave this to the hosts to plan.

I'm glad you said something! Sorry for the misunderstanding!!

If possible I'd like to have at least one person with me. I don't know anyone else with DID and I don't feel very comfortable traveling alone. So maybe if we did a one extra person only type thing. I'm thinking a vote on it would be good

Sotrsab wrote:
I actually have a lot to say about this that is pretty much T-lead, so it's pretty solid, safe ideas for planning a safe, fun trip where real-life (as opposed to just internet) friends are made. We could potentially become life-long friends because who could EVER really understand us but ourselves? But, I don't want to control anything, I just want you all to talk with your T's, your SO's, & hopefully get their blessings on this idea. We can work out the plans after.

A successful trip could not possibly be executed in a short period of time given all of our issues. Personally, I wouldn't want to rush this at all (desperately as I feel the desire to) because I want so much for this to become a huge success & a something that we all could look forward to on a yearly basis, as any gathering or convention-type thing. We could all benefit immensely, let's just plan to do it right.

It will take some time for me to put together all the ideas that my T & I have talked about & post to you all to increase our chance for an enjoyable, successful trip. Let's not kid ourselves, the possibility of disappointment, danger, triggers, etc. is huge. I would like for anyone on board with getting their T's & SO's blessing first to respond.

I really agree with everything you said. That's exactly what I want this to become too, an annual gathering thing. And I totally agree with taking the time to plan it right. I haven't ever planned anything before so I don't know how long of a time it normally takes or what your idea of long is, but from my understanding you don't really want to put a date or relative time on it until everything is absolutely worked out perfectly. I think that's a good idea; I don't have a T to talk to about all of this or have any idea on how to go about any of it really. So I'm glad you have a better understanding on all of this

It's all quite out of my league so I'm super glad and excited that you all have a better grasp on it and have T's who can help as well!

Revised goal for DID meet: DID people getting together to know and understand one another. Making lifelong friends and interacting with each other in a safe, fun environment. A DID convention.

Anyone feel free to correct me on that goal. Or change it, etc. I'm just trying to make sure we're all on the same page

Ah yes, I am also sorry for the misunderstanding. I got carried away... You are absolutely right though. This should be perfectly planned out before any date is attached.
Maybe the SO's (should they be allowed to come along in the first place though I must say that I am in favor since I've never traveled by myself before) could have a cabin nearby to themselves? That way they could also have the benefit of like company and know that they also aren't alone in their experiences and such. And that way should a switch happen such as a little needing someone familiar nearby, the someone familiar would be nearby.
This would not tamper with the original/revised goal, but (in my opinion, please correct me if I'm wrong) would add kind of a safety net.
Those are just my thoughts. I don't mean to undermine anything and please feel free to dispute me in any way.

[quote="AliasForAFew"]Maybe the SO's (should they be allowed to come along in the first place though I must say that I am in favor since I've never traveled by myself before) could have a cabin nearby to themselves? That way they could also have the benefit of like company and know that they also aren't alone in their experiences and such. And that way should a switch happen such as a little needing someone familiar nearby, the someone familiar would be nearby.
This would not tamper with the original/revised goal, but (in my opinion, please correct me if I'm wrong) would add kind of a safety net.

Understood. Good idea. Here's another. My T mentioned - just as an alternative option (not pushing the idea), what about a cruise? He brought to the table that then, anyone could retreat to their private room whenever they wanted, & also, SO's could come. There could be guidelines put in place that the SOs are there to support our mission & purpose ONLY, & that they can have their own support group meetings, not necessarily 'entirely', but at least allowing us to have the time we all might need to meet our own needs/goals. Certainly over the course of 5 days or a week or whatever, we could all meet with our SOs as well.

For those without a current SO, especially if afraid to travel alone, we can talk about it & work something out. I am not afraid to travel alone & have done it many times. I found it exciting & adventurous. But, if someone really wants to attend desperately needing help, I will make it my mission to see that it happens even if it costs me a layover in another city.

Totally open to discussion on the whole thing. We could meet on the beach of a lake in the middle of the country for all I care, I just want us DIDs to meet & to have a heart felt connection to life-long friends.

BTW, cruises are way cheaper than I once thought. My T said whatever we decide, land or sea, he will use his experience that he gained while making his own vacation plans throughout the last 39 years available to us so that we get the best rates & make sure all expenses are inclusive if it applies to what we decide.

Let me know what you think?

If people start think they want to do a cruise I'm actually near Port Canaveral, and can do any ground work needed. If they want to launch from here.Otherwise open to most any idea!

Oh! I've never been on a cruise before! I like that idea! A beach house may be easier to get to, in a way, since it doesn't (or shouldn't, rather) move and there's no immediate deadline to be there but I have no idea how cruises work. Maybe there are multiple boarding stops?
A beach house may also be cheaper because that way everyone can split the cost
But cruises probably have some kind of group deal and there's the added benefit of private rooms to escape to. I like both ideas, really. I think I may be up for a cruise since it's easy enough for me to get to the beach whenever.
-G

AliasForAFew wrote:Oh! I've never been on a cruise before! I like that idea! A beach house may be easier to get to, in a way, since it doesn't (or shouldn't, rather) move and there's no immediate deadline to be there but I have no idea how cruises work. Maybe there are multiple boarding stops?
A beach house may also be cheaper because that way everyone can split the cost
But cruises probably have some kind of group deal and there's the added benefit of private rooms to escape to. I like both ideas, really. I think I may be up for a cruise since it's easy enough for me to get to the beach whenever.
-G

I'm going to be posting some destinations & costs & believe me, I'm certainly going to go on the inexpensive trail. I just want to hear everybody's ideas/desires/concerns first. keep 'em coming.

-- Sat Mar 16, 2013 2:21 pm --

Hey! I've got it!

Why don't we all head for Los Angeles & kick Dr. Phil's @$$?

...just kidding

i don't have much time to respond and i had even less time to read but i'm scared about the cruise idea... we had to do so much to prepare for the couple boat trips we took in the past because we found out we get sea sick (not bad, but bad enough to where we pretty much sit there and don't move or do anything). and i dunno how we would be on a long boat trip like that... we were ok on short boat trips, like going fishing, with dramamine and stuff, but i dunno about a long boat trip, and i dunno if any of us would get claustrophobic since there's no way off of the boat really...

i'm still open to the idea but it's not my first choice...


- cassie (age ?)

[quote="tomboy24"][color=#BF00BF]i don't have much time to respond and i had even less time to read but i'm scared about the cruise idea...

No worries Cassie I wouldn't want anyone to feel afraid for any reason. This is why we need to take our time & let everyone voice their concerns. I can give you a lolly pop on the beach or on a mountain top for all I care. I just think it would be cool to meet but it doesn't matter where.

I just think it would be cool to meet but it doesn't matter where.

Yeah, man. I just want to see everyone. It doesn't matter where, really.

Please read the very important reasons why I am locking this thread that are stated on the" DID forum meet in person" thread here: dissociative-identity/topic109164-20.html#p1088489

Sotrsab, if you wish to make another thread about the trust issues, you are welcome to. It's just not appropriate to continue this "meet up" discussion here, for reasons stated in my above link.