DID Forum Meet in Person

So on this thread post1081040.html#p1081040 we have been talking about meeting up on a coast and getting a beach house for a DID vacation.

There's still a lot that needs to be thought out, so I figured I'd start this thread for all of the planning and for those who are interested.

We still need a location, dates, and well pretty much everything.

And I'm going to assume, but others can correct me if I'm wrong, but this would also being open to friends, family, SO's as well.

So for everyone who's interested go ahead and say which coast would work for you. And if you have any other ideas or suggestions feel free to post them!

a lot of us are wary about strangers/meeting new people in general, so i'm not sure how we'd feel (oh, i'm back out, anyway, sorry) about having others along like SO's or friends or family. maybe SO's. or maybe something like one travelling buddy if you need it. but definitely someone who's ok with us being us and with DID stuff and everything. because i really just want to meet others like us and be free and have such understanding with everyone and everything! (and sometimes i get nervous around new people that i don't know but that other people do know). but we can always talk about it and figure out the details more as we go along. that's what this thread is for after all.

- cassie (age ?)

-- Fri Mar 15, 2013 1:15 pm --

transportation ideas so far:

-- carpooling with cars (people that are driving through the same areas could pick others up and arrive at the destination in groups)

-- meeting up on the same train maybe (or just taking the train in general)

-- flying in general or possibly meeting up on the same plane or during a layover





- cassie (age ?)

I may need to take my SO along simply because I've never traveled alone before and I'd probably get myself hopelessly lost without her around. She likes the idea and she's very open minded. I'm sure there wouldn't be any trouble from her.

If we could possibly make the date for after June 6? That way I'll have graduated from the high school and made arrangements for living and schooling and work by then.
Depending on what coast is picked I think I may be able to shell out enough money for a plane , but train is far cheaper and riding on the train with some folk here would probably be very nice.

Forgive me if I'm being too forward or what have you (having ended up the coordinator of most events, I have found that one must be on top of things and really mean to get the job done) but I definitely think the first order of business ought to be which coast. I think it makes sense to go to the coast the majority of people are closer to.

I believe there are two for East coast
One or two where out doesn't matter too much
And two or three for West coast

We would probably do with a more specific count than that, so if those interested could post which coast they would prefer/are able to get to the easiest we would have a good place to start.

-G (With backup from good old VT)

tomboy24 wrote: a lot of us are wary about strangers/meeting new people in general, so i'm not sure how we'd feel (oh, i'm back out, anyway, sorry) about having others along like SO's or friends or family. maybe SO's. or maybe something like one travelling buddy if you need it. but definitely someone who's ok with us being us and with DID stuff and everything. because i really just want to meet others like us and be free and have such understanding with everyone and everything! (and sometimes i get nervous around new people that i don't know but that other people do know).

I totally understand that! Yeah, definitely want people who are totally okay with DID. I'm nervous meeting strangers too, especially from online because since I was a kid I was told it's highly dangerous and never to do it. But this situation is much different than what they were warning me about so I'm not overly concerned. I would definitely want a friend along with me though

AliasForAFew wrote:If we could possibly make the date for after June 6? That way I'll have graduated from the high school and made arrangements for living and schooling and work by then.

Yeah, after June and before August works for me. College usually starts up around Aug 10th for me.

AliasForAFew wrote:Forgive me if I'm being too forward or what have you (having ended up the coordinator of most events, I have found that one must be on top of things and really mean to get the job done) but I definitely think the first order of business ought to be which coast. I think it makes sense to go to the coast the majority of people are closer to.

I believe there are two for East coast
One or two where out doesn't matter too much
And two or three for West coast

We would probably do with a more specific count than that, so if those interested could post which coast they would prefer/are able to get to the easiest we would have a good place to start.

-G (With backup from good old VT)

I definitely agree the decision on a coast should come first. I have a friend who is on the west coast so if I had to choose I'd say west.

I'm glad you're good with planning this stuff because I've never done any sort of planing for an event or trip. So feel free to take over, I was just gettin the ball rollin

We are east-bound but we can get the funds to go west, north, south, whatever.

From this thread: dissociative-identity/topic109090-10.html

Sotrsab wrote:What I am looking for is a positive connection with HOST DIDs, one that will give us a sense of peace in knowing that we are not alone. This was not, is not, & will never be (in my druthers) a family/friends vacation 'group type' thing.

Also, SOs...maybe a good idea, but not what I was hoping for, especially for a 1st time visit, but I'm open to let the majority (hopefully, guided by their Ts, rule). If there are alters who are afraid, like littles, or young teens, whomever, maybe each of us could leave this to the hosts to plan.

I'm glad you said something! Sorry for the misunderstanding!!

If possible I'd like to have at least one person with me. I don't know anyone else with DID and I don't feel very comfortable traveling alone. So maybe if we did a one extra person only type thing. I'm thinking a vote on it would be good

Sotrsab wrote:
I actually have a lot to say about this that is pretty much T-lead, so it's pretty solid, safe ideas for planning a safe, fun trip where real-life (as opposed to just internet) friends are made. We could potentially become life-long friends because who could EVER really understand us but ourselves? But, I don't want to control anything, I just want you all to talk with your T's, your SO's, & hopefully get their blessings on this idea. We can work out the plans after.

A successful trip could not possibly be executed in a short period of time given all of our issues. Personally, I wouldn't want to rush this at all (desperately as I feel the desire to) because I want so much for this to become a huge success & a something that we all could look forward to on a yearly basis, as any gathering or convention-type thing. We could all benefit immensely, let's just plan to do it right.

It will take some time for me to put together all the ideas that my T & I have talked about & post to you all to increase our chance for an enjoyable, successful trip. Let's not kid ourselves, the possibility of disappointment, danger, triggers, etc. is huge. I would like for anyone on board with getting their T's & SO's blessing first to respond.

I really agree with everything you said. That's exactly what I want this to become too, an annual gathering thing. And I totally agree with taking the time to plan it right. I haven't ever planned anything before so I don't know how long of a time it normally takes or what your idea of long is, but from my understanding you don't really want to put a date or relative time on it until everything is absolutely worked out perfectly. I think that's a good idea; I don't have a T to talk to about all of this or have any idea on how to go about any of it really. So I'm glad you have a better understanding on all of this

It's all quite out of my league so I'm super glad and excited that you all have a better grasp on it and have T's who can help as well!

Revised goal for DID meet: DID people getting together to know and understand one another. Making lifelong friends and interacting with each other in a safe, fun environment. A DID convention.

Anyone feel free to correct me on that goal. Or change it, etc. I'm just trying to make sure we're all on the same page

It'll be 2 weeks till I'm 18 then! Are you guys from England?

Man, I really wish I could go, but I have no means of transportation because I'm poor and I also have a three year old alter and if I switched into her she wouldn't have any clue what to do. I also live in Hartwell GA and I doubt anyone would be riding through there.

No, we're all in the U.S. maybe you could organize one for England too though!

I'm sure we'll figure something out money wise since most people are tight on cash. Also, this isn't going to happen anytime soon so you have time to save up and money if you can. I'm sure someone from a nearby state wouldn't mind meeting you at a train station or something.

I bet there are others with those worries and we can come up with ways to sort it out.

Most likely we would be driving from PA. The more the merrier in the car cause there's plenty of room
as long as you don't mind wacky jams on the stereo hahaha. And cigarettes occasionally.