Trust is a 5-Letter 4 Letter word

Ah, well. If most people live out towards the West coast then perhaps I'd just have to save up enough for a plane ticket? Or train... Hm. I would really love to do this. New places and new people will be terrifying, but hey! I'll be off on my own soon! what better way to start than with a vacation with some e-friends?
-G

Havin a break is good, it can be so well good.

However, I m havin trouble travel, but travellin in spirit is nice too.

How are you feelin today? Could you find somethin relaxin?

I know there is no easy fix, but I hope comin on here and ventin can be a bit of a support.

I don t think it s bold if you d PM me, but it s up to you if you feel like it or not. I m here anyways.

Sendin you a hot cuppa with a brownie on the side and a gentle hug if wanted.

NIna11

Oh my Gosh.

I can't even believe how the response turned out! I do hope you all are serious!!!
I was down a bit yesterday so tried to stay busy to keep my mind accupied. When I saw the responses just know I nearly screamed out loud with J-O-Y. I have been wanting this for a small forever.

It is absolutely do-able. East Coast, West Coast doesn't matter to me. 'Beach house' - my new favorite word! I stayed at two in the Wilmington, Karr (NC) beach areas & they were fine. I'm not particular & don't need anything fancy. One thing for any who might not know, The atlantic Ocean is warmer than the Pacific, at least San Diego area compared to NC.

Why don't all who are interested poke around on line just to see what we come up with. Don't forget to check out the 'Group Rates' ...maybe we each could get one!

Can't wait to hear all the suggestions.

I am most definitely serious!! And it doesn't matter what coast it's on for me either.

Maybe we should start a new thread for this so more people know about it.

I am so excited!! *jumping up and down* I will do whatever it takes to help make this happen!

i'm serious too! i really want this to happen and am willing to try my hardest to make it happen! i think this would just be the most awesomest thing in the world! west coast would be easier for me (i live like only a few hours away from coast lines/beaches) but with enough time/planning i could maybe do east coast (money's the main issue here).

maybe if it's cheaper we might come up with some sort of carpooling idea? like those who are driving through the same areas could maybe pick up others or something to help out? or something like that?

(this means maybe i'm gonna hafta be the grownup that gets a job for us to help with money. or, wait, would that make me unable to do this if i couldn't take enough days off of work? will hafta think more about that. oh well this is a figuring out process after all! ).


- cassie (age ?)

I'm equally far away from either coast, so it's really up to the rest of you on that one. I like the carpooling idea If there's people in my area maybe we could even fly on the same plane or something or meet up during a layover.

If you do get a job you can see how long of a vacation you get and use it for this. I'm sure if you give them enough notice it won't be a problem

I'm so excited about this!!!

East Coast of FL here if anyone wants I could look into Beach houses nearby.

FL is a ways away for us, but since we're considering both coast, i'd say go for it. never hurts to look up any and all options.

here's the thread where we'll be posting more about this and figuring out actual details:

http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic109164.html


i like the carpooling idea too. i think planes might be too expensive for some. maybe we could try meeting up on the same train or something if we don't drive? that's another idea. (that maybe i should post in the other thread, hehe).

- cassie (age ?)

The following is in regard to another post which is this:

dissociative-identity/topic109164.html

But, sinse this is the original post, I wanted to voice my opinion to that for all who responded here. Thanks, by the way. I saw there are more responses just now that I didn't see before. Need coffee! , then I'll respond...

Evanescent posting said:

"So on this thread post1081040.html#p1081040 we have been talking about meeting up on a coast and getting a beach house for a DID vacation.

And I'm going to assume, but others can correct me if I'm wrong, but this would also being open to friends, family, SO's as well. "


My response was:

NO. That is absolutely NOT what I was suggesting when I posted the original thread. I am so sorry to have given that impression. Since that posting, I have spent 2 hrs. with my T on this very subject. I'll get to that, but this, I have to say right off the bat:

What I am looking for is a positive connection with HOST DIDs, one that will give us a sense of peace in knowing that we are not alone. This was not, is not, & will never be (in my druthers) a family/friends vacation 'group type' thing.

Yes, there will be alters wanting to come out, & lots of natural triggers because we are all so different & because we have alters who are all so different. So yes, this will have to be well planned out. I would advise everyone who is interested in such an event to speak with their present or past T (or any trusted professional) about the possibilities that may occur in such a volatile endeavor.

Also, SOs...maybe a good idea, but not what I was hoping for, especially for a 1st time visit, but I'm open to let the majority (hopefully, guided by their Ts, rule). If there are alters who are afraid, like littles, or young teens, whomever, maybe each of us could leave this to the hosts to plan.

I actually have a lot to say about this that is pretty much T-lead, so it's pretty solid, safe ideas for planning a safe, fun trip where real-life (as opposed to just internet) friends are made. We could potentially become life-long friends because who could EVER really understand us but ourselves? But, I don't want to control anything, I just want you all to talk with your T's, your SO's, & hopefully get their blessings on this idea. We can work out the plans after.

A successful trip could not possibly be executed in a short period of time given all of our issues. Personally, I wouldn't want to rush this at all (desperately as I feel the desire to) because I want so much for this to become a huge success & a something that we all could look forward to on a yearly basis, as any gathering or convention-type thing. We could all benefit immensely, let's just plan to do it right.

It will take some time for me to put together all the ideas that my T & I have talked about & post to you all to increase our chance for an enjoyable, successful trip. Let's not kid ourselves, the possibility of disappointment, danger, triggers, etc. is huge. I would like for anyone on board with getting their T's & SO's blessing first to respond. I am posting this here, but also to the original thread to respect the original responders.

I will post more on this, but please feel free to express what your ideal vacation for a DID meet & greet would be.

We would love to go to a meet-up and chill with all you lovely people but we don't have one host, never did, so i dunno if that means we're exempt.

Also, in reply to the original post i am really sorry that you'd reached out and made trust with someone and then it turned sour. there is lots of bias even in the psych community (maybe even especially in this community) about being multiple. its super polarized and littered with peoples stigmas and media garbage and old 80s mentality. we've heard the shaming bullsh*t from many therapists over time and in this time only 2 actually supported multiplicity and didnt think we were totally nutso. i find the whole thing sort of funny in an objective way, singletons cant imagine being multiple so we are seen as "wtf lies" or "wtf madness" whereas i cant even begin to fathom being a singleton but you don't see me throwing stones at them. i shudder to think how crazy we WOULD be if we WERE NOT multiple, considering all the torture creepy crap we went through. being multiple is our saving grace, yaknow? But people are wonky and unreliable and it hurts when this stuff happens, but just know you are a wonderful set of persons, you have company here, we believe in you and yours, and you shouldnt let ignorance of narrow minded people bring you down too much. i am kinda jaded with trust and i only ever let people halfway in, and i am always very cautious because when unknowing people mention multiplicty offhand its usually not in a sunny sunshine rainbows and kittens perspective. Maybe one day she will learn the truth, for your sake and for the sake of all multiple who might cross her path, i damn well hope so. seeya