Yeah! A blog post! I used to have a shoe fetish too. It's nice you had a pleasant adventure with your mum . I like non-fiction too. I like history and politics and docos about anything really. My brain is a sponge with a thirst for new information. My curiosity about the world doesn't seem anywhere close to being sated. I'm sorry you are having a period of grief re your ex. Like I posted on someone else's thread "Grief is the process of the hole, that they left in our lives, closing over". I thought that was a nice expression, even if I do say so myself lol. Narcissistic? Who me?
It actually sounds like you are pacing yourself quite well. Have the urges to entertain lessened, and has your preparedness to follow those urges lessened due to your awareness around the issue?

I think people focus on "fat" because being seriously overwieght is more common than seriously underweight at the moment.
Although a limit of BMI 25 sounds harsh. My husband is around BMI 25 and he does not look overweight at all. He has aways been broad in the shoulders/hips, and has muscles from cycling. I think 32 is a more reasonable warning limit if that is what the data suggests.
On another note, a low BMI does not always mean a person is unhealthy/anorexic. Prior to having my son, i always sat at BMI around 20, and i ate a lot and was very healthy. Just a high metabolism. Some people do naturally have that body type without abusing their bodies.
Aside - Here's something that amuses me: according to my husbands wii i am now "overweight" - because it doesn't recognise pregnancy. It has turned my character fat and everything! (i'm around 73kg). Which probably goes back to your point about the fat is bad messages.

Very PROUD of you. I wish I had been diagnosed earlier, too. It would have made a big difference in my life. But then sometimes I think, maybe we find things out when we are ready to. I guess we are, where we are. I am also glad to have the diagnosis. I feel grateful.

I just picked up this book, "Get Me Out of Here," by Rachel Reiland. She recovered from BPD. It's making me feel hopeful!

No. That's not so unfortunately. It's being pushed by the medical industry (that includes GPs, surgeons, hospitals, pharmaceutical industry). It's even government policy in many countries to bombard us with Fat is Bad messages.
If you do one search on PubMed you are overwhelmed with all the peer reviewed studies claiming a direct causal link between Obesity and disease risk. And when we're talking about obesity, it's defined from BMI 25 upwards.

According to them we should be between 18 and 25. According to the evidence we should be between 22 and 32 for a healthy weight.

And anyroad the life expectancy of an anorexic, who is just 15 kg underweight is about the same as someone who is 200 kg overweight.

So who are they kidding?


There are but a few dissenting voices. Too much money at stake.

I don't think anyone really believed that being a healthy weight was unhealthy. More that being severely overweight is a risk factor for a few things. Its more the fashon and advertising industries that drove this craze for super skinny.