The first thing I came to realise, when I was old enough to understand, was that I was not "sick" and that AsPD is not an illness. Having spent a considerable amount of time being bounced from one doctor to another, and from one theory to another, it became quite frustrating to find out that not only was it all unnecessary but also quite unpleasant.
"We might get some results with this" used to leave me feeling concerned, wondering whether it would lead to a dry mouth, itching, hearing sounds that weren't there, nausea, sleeplessness, tiredness, etc this time. I wasn't successfully diagnosed until much later.
Today it reminds me of a joke I once heard about a boy who said he could make his hamster deaf by pulling off its legs. He knew it was deaf as when he yelled at it, it didn't run away scared. The same "results" came from the countless medications and therapies that were applied. Simply not being able to behave a certain way did not mean that I didn't think that way.
Years later it dawned on me that there is nothing wrong with me. I'm not sick, I'm different to most.
When people find out they usually go to google to "find out what I'm like" which is a bit like me going to google and searching for "normal person" and then asking you why you don't like fishing.
For those who do not understand the mind of a psychopath, here are a few things that might help.
Firstly, assume they're a completely different species of being, not just humans with a problem. That way you'll see that within that species there are many different personality types and many different levels of intelligence, likes and dislikes etc.
Secondly, Hannibal Lecteur was a made up character in a book played by, amongst others, Anthony Hopkins.
Thirdly, if you think that we don't behave well in society, I have to tell you that I read the news and you lot are pretty messed up too. Just because you may not have a label doesn't mean you're any better at dealing with the world than me. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that I'm probably better at running this planet than you, as I'm not hindered by irrational emotions and nonsensical beliefs in fairies, santa claus and god.
I'm married (the second time around) and I have two kids. My first wife blames me for the way she is today, but interestingly this happened after she knew what my label was. Before this she was just screwed up, but it was much easier to give up responsibility for herself and blame me once I had, in her mind, a label. My second wife knows about my condition and is supportive (although she gets frustrated at times). I made sure she knew this as soon as possible to avoid the same nonsense happening twice.
I have three friends who know of my condition, and they ask many questions. The most common question is "How do we know you have genuine feelings for us?" and of course the answer is "You don't. I want you around as I enjoy your company and so it makes sense for me to want you to stay fit and healthy." It's not rocket science.
Could I kill someone? Yes, of course but again, take a look at the news and you'll see it's not an activity reserved for those with AsPD. The difference is that I wouldn't really care afterwards, whereas you'd probably feel like crap for some time.
I have no interest in telling the rest of my family and friends. My mother knew and it constantly bothered her, but she died recently and so that problem went away. Most of my family realise that something is different, but nothing specific.
My life is quite frustrating, and being in groups of people can be exhausting as I constantly have to think about my behaviour and actions. Mostly it's my choice of phrasing. A recent example: We met some friends for a drink one evening as planned, but were late. I turned up and said "Sorry we're late, my mother died this afternoon and it took ages to get stuff sorted at the hospital." Fortunately, my wife was with me to pick up the pieces of the conversation. She said to me afterwards "It's ok, people assume that everyone deals differently with this stuff and they're expecting you to fall apart when it's all over. So, once the funeral's over, just stay home for a while so that they don't see you."
I'll keep this upadated if anything else occurs to me.
Remember: if you see a psychopath, give him a hug! It's much easier to reach your wallet that way.

I've not really done a blog before, so the concept is fairly new. I'll keep it going like this. Let me know if it gets full

I blame your mother. I do not believe people are born with ASPD, I think the behavior is learned and the lack of remorse is from never having learned or told to feel remorse.
I've had plenty of time to think in the past several years and am actually recovering. I do not have ASPD as I'm not prone to violence, do feel remorse when I hurt someone else and only do so if I feel I've been wronged. I have other problems, but I know for fact that my mother, my upbringing and a few of my peers (environment) are to blame. Its nice that you have a nice and understanding wife, she actually tells you what is acceptable behavior, that is something your mother should have done several years ago. Sounds like your mother expected you to know things without actually telling you. Sounds like she never asked you about things, or asked for explanations and then reiterated to you how to behave or what to feel.

I don't think you blame my mother, I think you blame yours.

My birth mother has AsPD, which I found out in my thirties. I was adopted by my well educated adoptive parents as a baby and brought up in a very conventional family. Both were professionals, although my mother stopped working for the time that my brother and I were small children so that she could devote the time to rear us.

My violent and anti-social behaviour started from as young as I can remember and was not triggered by anything specific. My parents found this behaviour to be unacceptable (putting my brother in hospital multiple times, locking cats in boxes and throwing them down the stairs, swinging small animals around by their tails and seeing how far I get make them fly etc) and sought medical help.
There was nothing that my parents did that I don't think any reasonable person would do in their position.
In fact, I've come to realise that their behaviour, consistent moral code and responsible example has helped me develop the necessary coping strategies and reasoning ability that has kept me out of prison.

If you don't believe AsPD is an inherited condition, then that would tend to put you at odds with most qualified medical professionals. I'd like to know what objective theories you have to support it.

I believe that AsPD is inherited, and that how a child is treated while young can have an influence on how those traits manifest themselves as time goes by.
I base my belief on medical evidence and my own experience.

Not having AsPD would limit your ability to understand without thorough research.

how do you do around your own kids? i'm with someone who wants to have them at some point but i am very reluctant, as i'm not sure i have the empathy skills required to avoid making a child's life hell.

I treat my kids well. It got easier as they got older and better able to reason with. I protect them the same as I'd protect anything belonging to me.
If you can maintain a relationship with your partner without making their life hell then I'm pretty sure you could do the same for your kids.
If you have anger issues which you cannot control then it may be better not to have kids.

i do have anger issues but not towards my partner. do you find that the gender of your kids makes a difference? i'd trust myself more with girls than boys, but unfortunately it isn't possible to choose which i have.

I think boys are easier. Girls shriek and scream which immediately makes me angry. Boys are easier to reason with.
Go to a place where there are loads of kids around 7-8 years old and see how the screaming and general behaviour makes you feel.
Your partner will need to understand what you're like to an extent that I've found rare in people and compensate.

Edit:

Looking at your other posts you claim to have a number of conditions (depression, PTSD, etc); none of which are AsPD. You may want to look elsewhere for advice.

my partner is very, very patient and even-tempered. we tend to balance each other's flaws. i like kids actually; they tend to piss me off less than adults. plus they are very funny, even when they're being obnoxious.

i've been diagnosed with AsPD, depression, PTSD and BPD. i do look elsewhere for advice, of course, as well as here.

Hey. Been doing some research on your post on this blog, the Bullying forum, the ASPD forum and found your thoughts very useful for me. Im not ASPD by the way, Im a victim with the problems that comes with it. I like the detached, intelligent and right-to-point way you describe your mindset and how you see people around you. I think no evil of you (You probably don't care what I think anyway:-p). Just wanted to say thanks, your style is awesome