Oh for the love of ######6 God

Stupid ass room mate, (son's father) drama enfused piece of crap is trying to get me to agree with him and it's not gonna fukcing work!

He wants me to give all the desicions of our 'family' (Dude has only been living me and my son since December and my kid still calls him by his first name because he's so NOT a father) over to him. He wants to move in a YEAR from now, somehwere else, which is still undetermined, for a job he doesn't know even exists there because there's no work here? He has had 8 jobs since moving here and barely GOES to these jobs because he's in bed all day.

So his frustrations are 'my fault' (according to him) and all the issues he's had since I broke him 10 years ago are all my fault (according to him) and it's now to the point where he's gonna move out and leave me and my son AGAIN and blame the whole thing on me.

Why?
Because I didn't say 'yes' to moving a year from now- where I dodn't even know where I'll be in my own fkn life; but he wants my opinion.

My opinion to HIM= me agreeing with him. If I don't agree with him- I'm carzy. I'm fkd up so anything I say is illogical (in his opinion) and unless I concied to his wishes and dreams- I'm being a bithc!
WTF is THAT????

Seriously!

Since begining treatment and stoping myself from the doing the things I want to do, everyone thinks I'm NUTS!

I'm getting really fkn sick of this and people keep pushing the buttons, probing me for THIER NEEDS and not respecting any of MINE- this is sh*t! This is such sh*T that I can hardly fkn bare it anymore.
GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR..............


Words can't describe my anger at this guy right now.

Why the hell does he think that if I don't agree with him- I'm being unreasonable?
How am I supposed to make a commitment for a year from now, when I have no idea what my life is gonna be like at that point?

Jezus Christ!!!!

I am livid! Absofu(kinglutely livid and disgusted by this whole damn thing.
WOW!

I told him specifically that I was a mess before he moved here. That I needed him to help with the rent and taking care of the kid because I'm unstable, in therapy and I'm going to be getting MUCH WORSE as I go through treatement. I told him this wasn't gonna picnick and he thought he could just wisk in here, my son would call him Daddy, he'd have instant respect from both us (after being completely abcent for 8 years) and we would be a 'family' PFT! Up your @ss and around the corner- we're NOT a family and you're not incharge

I run this ship and if you don't ######6 like it- GET THE FU(K OUT!!!!!!!!

I started out nicely telling him, "I can't make a promise for a year from now, when I have no idea where my life is gonna be."
He puked some word vomit, and then I said NICELY, "If this is something you want to do, then work towards it and we can look at it more seriously when it's closer to that time."

He didn't like that and it set him in a blockheaded stance of reasonable inpenetrability, and he was no longer listing to anything I said.

I tried very hard to remain calm, but finally said, "What do you want from me here? What are looking for in this right now? What do you want me to do Buddy?"
He said he just wanted my opinion- well that was a crock right there
He didn't want my OPINION- he wanted me to agree with him, and anything less than that wasn't good enough. He had my opinion- several times, and wasn't accepting it. He wanted me to bow down and take it up the @ss so he could have his way.

A power struggle?
Hell YEAH! But for me this wasn't a game of PS, this was making life altering choices that would efffect myself, and more importantly MY SON! So this was NOT a game and he needed to understand that I was firm on a 'NO' answer if he needed one today- or we could look at in the future which gave him a maybe....

Too stupid to see that he could have taken the maybe and left it at that, he kept pressing me for a 'YES' on the move and went beyond yes to, "Why don't you just let me make the dessicions for the family from now on?" WFT????????

I'm not being unreasonable. I'm being very rational saying I'll not commit to something so far down the road when my life is so undetermined right now. If anything that's the BEST answer I could have given this shmuk; but he wouldn't accept it.

So yeah, it thenm becomes 'my fault' (as stated by him) he can't live like this, etc.... And I'm the bad guy.

I'm the bad guy for standing up for myself, and not making a commitment that would affect me and my son's lives just to appease him.

Like if this was something as easy as a pizza- fine have your peporni, I'm not ruthless and I try to keep the peace within the home and not power struggle here. But this is moving cities and uprooting my child- a year away without anything more than an idea that popped into his head and I'm not gonna do this without proper planning, research, time and some improvements from him in his fatherly/room mately duties!

This guy greatly adds to my stress and there's no reason for me to keep that going if he can't change. I'm not making a firm commitment to him or anyone else right now. He's not proven that we can live together productively here, so why the hell would I look to move with him somewhere else?
Makes no sense????

FML & F HIM2!

Grrr... I really do hate stupid people