Today, I find the more anxious I am the more anxious inners get. I work on relaxation and staying calm. The more healthy ones continually validate and reassure the others.

At my very worst I was married with 3 young children. I think the concern for my children forced me to work things out in a firm positive way. Inners used to hurt and threaten me until I got so worried about my children and so pissed of at always being afraid I found the courage to fight back. I told inners that if they didn’t take better care of my children while they were out I would kill myself and save them the trouble. It wasn’t an overnight cure but things did get easier to deal with and I felt more in control of things.