Hello all:

My husband had his neuropsych evaluation and we received the report. It focused on his cognitive issues, and his emotional state following the cancer, chemo and the aftermath. The neuropsychologist thinks he has a “neuro cognitive disorder” caused by the chemo. I think this means that the chemo had an actual organic effect on his cognitive function. I know he’s had cognitive issues since he finished the chemo but it was hard to tell if it was from stress, worry, being freaked out by all of it, or from damage to his brain. Apparently it’s all of the above. The neuropsych also believes he has some elements of PTSD from all of this. A real eye opener. He has recommended counseling for us as a couple, and specific treatment for PTSD. if it works, I guess it’s confirmation that PTSD was indeed a correct diagnosis.
For the neuro cognitive disorder, they recommend periodic testing to monitor his cognitive status. This report was a relief in so many ways. FOR ANY ONE WHO IS CONSIDERING A NEUROPSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION FOR A LOVED ONE, PLEASE DO IT. Professionals really know what they are doing. Going through the recommended treatment will help further define the diagnoses. So, onward. We will start the counseling and the specific treatment for PTSD. Things are looking up, after 3 very difficult years.

First off, glad to hear from you! Thanks for the update, and it's very good to hear that there are some answers for what's been going on.

Second, is that you're a Queen among wives, and he's super lucky you have stuck it out with him. No one could have faulted you, if you hadn't.

Hi Snaga, glad you are forging onward and being such great help here in the site. I admit I’ve grown through all of this, hopefully for the better. I’ve learned that psychological and cognitive issues disguise themselves in many ways. Evaluations by professionals are the key to improvement. Not that they get it right the first time, every time. But if you are persistent, follow the evaluations and treatment, you will eventually get an accurate diagnosis and treatment recommendations.
To everyone reading who is in a VERY difficult relationship, things can change. We still experience blowups and disagreements, but not to the extent we did before. The neuropsychological evaluation and report has been a great help to both of us even though the treatment and counseling has not begun.