If I've miscast these programs, it's only because of my limited knowledge of them--and I apologize, if that's the case. The first thing I think of is The Pickup Artist, whose maestro of the female mind is named Mystery and wears a large black furry fedora. In this show, the focus was less on making the guys "less dorky" and more self-confident and more on fooling the women.
And while I didn't specifically post on it, the patriarchy is just as harmful to men as it is to women. Fillyjonk on Kate Harding's blog Shapely Prose wrote, "...consider this: patriarchy thinks you're f---ing stupid. It thinks you’re a penis without a brain that’s worthwhile and powerful only because women are vaginas without brains and that’s somehow worse. It thinks you’re untrustworthy, that you can’t be left alone with a woman, that you can’t be left alone with a child. Feminists didn’t make that $#%^ up — they’re just noting it and passing it on. You can decide what you want to do about it — but don’t think you can pick and choose which of patriarchy’s mandates apply to you. This is a package deal, my friend. If women’s worth is only in f---ability, then men are just dumb f---ers. We think better of men. Do you?"
I would also like to point out that the National Organization for Women, the organization of which Betty Friedan served as first president, argued to the Supreme Court of the United States that our male-only draft discriminated against men. It's funny that you seem to be using Betty's name as an insult, when the organization so closely tied to her name has lobbied for MASCULINE equality as well.
And I would argue that masculinity is safer (but not necessarily safe) from ridicule than femininity is. For women, social acceptability is meekness, politeness, strength in silence and suffering. For men, it's arrogance, physical strength, charisma and sexual conquest. Neither are fair, both are damaging, but one leads to victimization far more frequently. Harriet Jacobs wrote, "People wonder why women don’t 'fight back,' but they don’t wonder about it when women back down in arguments, are interrupted, purposefully lower and modulate their voices to express less emotion, make obvious signals that they are uninterested in conversation or being in closer physical proximity and are ignored. They don’t wonder about all those daily social interactions in which women are quieter, ignored, or invisible, because those social interactions seem normal. They seem normal to women, and they seem normal to men, because we were all raised in the same cultural pond, drinking the same Kool-Aid.
"And then, all of a sudden, when women are raped, all these natural and invisible social interactions become evidence that the woman wasn’t truly raped. Because she didn’t fight back, or yell loudly, or run, or kick, or punch. She let him into her room when it was obvious what he wanted. She flirted with him, she kissed him. She stopped saying no, after a while.
"These rules for social interactions that women are taught to obey are more than grease for the patriarchy wheel. Women are taught both that these rules will protect them, and that disobeying these rules results in punishment."
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http://fugitivus.wordpress.com/2009/06/ ... ut-rape-3/)
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http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2 ... s-men-too/)
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http://kateharding.net/2009/10/14/have- ... g-so-sexy/)
But seriously being nice only leads to one thing, your the real life 40 yr old virgin, except this isnt hollywood with the happy ending. Money and power get you laid and i doubt many guys with AvPD have either.
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