Inappropriate smiling

I notice myself that I might be smiling inappropriately sometimes during conversation with someone.
And I also notice that I never experience silences as awkward. I find it relaxing, and I can just kinda sit there and feel the conversation - might sound a little odd :p

i smile when im nervous or upset. when my grandmother broke her hip and when i lost my research paper twice, i had a huge grin on my face. it really annoys my mom.

katosjoes wrote:I notice myself that I might be smiling inappropriately sometimes during conversation with someone.
And I also notice that I never experience silences as awkward. I find it relaxing, and I can just kinda sit there and feel the conversation - might sound a little odd :p

In which situations do you talk to people? you said in another thread that you spend most of your time alone, and that you enjoy being alone.

These days I've been reading in a public sort of library, I mostly get to be alone there as well, but maybe I walk around in an odd way or something, cause people come over and ask me if I work there :p
And they're all so friendly, but I don't really like to talk to them.

Other times is mostly at home, talking to those I live with. A boy and a girl, we're renting an apartment together.

Yes, you told me that you don't live with your parents anymore. That means that you are doing very well in life, considering that you have Asperger's Syndrome. It can be tough, and I know many people who just wouldn't be able to function out on their own. I think that you are probably very capable of talking to people, but you just don't do it much, right?

Hi Tramned! Yeah I do this too. I think it's a nervous thing but it really winds people up.

Sometimes during a row with my husband I'll start giggling uncontrollably. I also laughed right the way through my wedding vows! It was torturous because everyone was looking but I just couldn't stop. I felt my face get hotter and hotter and could feel all those eyes on me...*shivers*

I had to run out of the room when I was given the news of a relatives death. Everyone thought I was overcome with grief but really I had to escape before they witnessed the hysterical laughter I could feel bubbling up.

The latest episode was during a meeting with my son's psychologist and his preschool teacher. They were talking to me about his behaviour in the nursery and about the support plans they wanted to put in place to help him prepare for school. It was supposed to be a serious discussion but I just kept picturing his cheeky little face and was picturing him in my mind doing all the things they were describing. The psychologist then had to witness what she probably thought was a terrible (or drunk) mother, wobbling like a jelly with her face getting pinker and pinker, giggling and snorting while she listened to the difficulties her child may face.
I think it may be because they sounded so solemn and so serious. Not good!

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Rev wrote:I tend to smile and laugh whenever I'm really uncomfortable. Like when I'm at a new job, I tend to look like I'm having fun not being familiar with things and not knowing what I'm doing, when inside I feel like an idiot. It's not a feeling I enjoy in the slightest, I very much rather be in control of things than to bumble around. But I also don't want to express my anxiety, so I laugh and smile instead. It's a coping mechanism, I guess.

I do this too for new jobs and situations, but then it's hard to sustain it. It's like, at the start, I portray myself as a bubbly sort of person but then it peters out quite rapidly once I settle into a routine. Once that happens, I never really smile and just keep to myself. This is obviously why people like us have difficulty maintaining friendships, I suspect

Yesterday I asked my two friends how they perceive me. One of them told me that I tend to laugh inappropriately when there is no need for laugh or when I should only smile.

I can often burst out laughing inappropriately because of picturing some things in my mind. Even on the street. Sometimes I can play a rhythm in my mind (of a recently heard music) and I could start laughing because of the discrepancy between the rhythm in my head and people's walk. I haven't told this to anyone, they would probably think I am nuts.

Freak, I do that too: Play various rhythms in my head while I am out walking, and usually to the beat of either my own or another person's feet. It's not just songs that I repeat though, because I also repeat phrases in my head. Sometimes, it could just be something simple that someone has just said to me, and then I repeat it countless times in my head without realising.