Is love real or is it just bullcrap?

Hey,

I met this girl a few years ago, shes the most messed up women I have ever met, shes a serial cheater, serial liar, shes probably got multiple personalities.

But at the same time she is the most beautiful, sweet, loving, gorgeous women. You may think this is rediculous but I can smell her, as in she has this wierd scent that's like unsmellable but I can still smell it. I can lay next to her and just smell her lol, freaking rediculous.

I used to lay next to her and watch her sleep, I'd be so tired after doing niteshift but I tried not to go to sleep just to watch her sleeping, she was like an angel sleeping.

The way she moves, talks, looks is like ambrosia, like a drug.

I had to break up with her because she kept cheating on me and lying, I think that period was the most painful thing in my entire life and it lasted for about a year after we broke up. I kept getting relapses and having almost uncontrollable urges to go to her even though I knew based on previous experiences it'd end in more suffering.

Anyway I saw her about 2 years later, and I spoke to her, but left very quickly and when I went outside I was shaking and then was depressed for about a week, bleak dark horrible depression.

A few days ago I saw her driving past me, and I knew I should not do it but I parked my car and pretended to go for a walk in the hope she parked too and maybe went shopping and I might see her again.

I know shes the most terrible thing for me but its been 3 years and just seeing her makes me go crazy and throw all my carefully laid fix my life up plans in the bin. I'm married, though when I was with her I was separated.

Is she my soul mate? And do you think you can have evil soul mates, not in the sense she is evil but in the sense that they'er soulmates but really bad for you? Will this go away?

No! This woman is dangerous! Avoid. She is one of those women with the super-pheromones. This woman undoubtedly will end badly and lose her beauty. You are tricked. If you are married, you should love your wife and transcend society.

Well I don't personally believe in soul mates. I do believe different people emotionally/intellectually are more/less likely to bond due to similarities and differences in their personalities which perhaps nobody can fully explain, beyond saying that we tend to become friends with some people, not others; lovers with some, not others, and often we don't even know why there are those we do and don't with.

I also believe that some people are better at being seductive than others; that yes it's possible some people emit more pheromones; that for whatever genetic/biological reasons we're sometimes very physically attracted to another (though the attraction is not always mutual); that sexual attraction turns on all kinds of biological changes in us that affects how we think/feel in general; and some other things I believe as well along those lines.

Let me ask a simple question to ask yourself, and only you can answer this question honestly for yourself -

So if you were not physically attracted to her (perhaps imagine her looking quite different, whatever imagery you'd not find attractive), given all you know about her personality, all you know about how she treated you, do you honestly feel that you'd be pondering 3 years later if she was your soul mate?

Such women are a waste of time. This type of woman inevitably will go off with the most rotten bastard with all kinds of flaws and possible drug addictions and fall in love with him. Later she may remember you fondly, and that is the end of it. Do you really want to go bald over such a woman?

zygote404 wrote:Is she my soul mate?

Seriously?

zygote404 wrote:And do you think you can have evil soul mates, not in the sense she is evil but in the sense that they'er soulmates but really bad for you?

Is she really bad for you? What's 'bad' for one, could be 'good' for another. Maybe you just think she's bad for you because her behaviors went against what you were raised to believe was 'right' or 'wrong'

zygote404 wrote:Will this go away?

Yes, no one lives forever.

Some women are evil, and bring all the love out of a man, so they can destroy it like a cat.

michijo wrote:No! This woman is dangerous! Avoid. She is one of those women with the super-pheromones. This woman undoubtedly will end badly and lose her beauty. You are tricked. If you are married, you should love your wife and transcend society.

I agree.
This woman is the equivalent of CRACK COCAINE. She will destroy you and anyone one else she gets involved with.
Love and honor your wife.

Hey thanks for the responses.

I tend to agree shes bad for me, which is why I left her. I do really wonder if she is my soulmate though, I never believed in them until I met her. I have been with a lot of women over the years and never once felt anything like I felt for her.

I thought a lot about it and I wondered if maybe there people who are soul mates, lots of them, who you might or might not meet and depending on circumstances, and whats happened to them in the past, even a soul mate may be too broken to go anywhere. I wrote http://www.collectivesupport.com.au/Forum/default.aspx?g=posts&t=104 a few years ago, shes not a bad person, just so messed up and I wonder if things had been different for her, had we met, things might have worked out?

I know I'll stop feeling this way when I die, I'd prefer to not have these relapses while I'm alive, when I do run into her, she doesn't live far from me.

anyway thanks for the replies

I seriously doubt the existence of soul mates, destiny, or any other sort of affair of kismet. Its a primitive fantasy from the primal area of the mind, which seeks to make magical sense of an affair.

You feel she's your soulmate. She don't feel the same cos she cheated.
You are dreaming mate, it ain't real.
Do you think she's borderline?