Using women for sex only.

whoops....should've read....

"...never learned anything about him/her".

whoops....should've read....

"...never learned anything about him/her".

sweet cheeks, idont find being with my soulmate ie, my wife distressing.A lot of things i did at the time i may find now i am settled ,sure my wife put up with a lot, but she loved me an i loved her or i would have done what you did an left. she turned a blind eye to things sure ,but she loved me that much she new i would end up her,s an her,s alone.a lot of what im saying happened before my wife came on the scene.look you had a rough time with guys from what your posting,i didnt its that simple. Call me weak, imorale, lucky, a bastard , whatever the ladies loved it i loved it now i dont, simple to me.my wife dont hold a grudge an we are as close as anyone can be. mabye you need to feel close to someone an stop thinking of your doomed relationships, mabye you think im like a few of the guys you have met. But im not, the women wernt used, it was something that just happened mabye i was used. Dont you get pleasure from makeing love to someone you fancy even if it may be wrong in your eyes,i think YOU may have some issues not me, an probably missed out on some of lifes pleasures

idont find being with my soulmate ie, my wife distressing

Manic...this is nice to hear, but a clear contradiction to what you posted earlier. All I was doing was asking why you "wrote" it would be distressing. No need to attack me

I always wonder why people enter forums if they can't 'talk' with respect to someone. Attacking someone doesn't lead to mature conversation. I wasn't challenging you, I was trying to get clarity so I can understand your thinking. That's what most people on forums do. When someone gets upset, it usually suggests that a nerve has been hit. Telling me I "have a problem" as you did to another poster earlier is a HUGE assumption about someone you don't know from a bar of soap. If you don't like how people are responding to you, then you need to look at what you've written to instigate that. We are all responsible for our outcomes. Attacking people WILL NOT achieve anything other than a poor reflection of you.

On a better note...nice to hear that your wife is your soulmate. Good for you x

sweetcheeks wrote:

idont find being with my soulmate ie, my wife distressing

Manic...this is nice to hear, but a clear contradiction to what you posted earlier. All I was doing was asking why you "wrote" it would be distressing. No need to attack me

I always wonder why people enter forums if they can't 'talk' with respect to someone. Attacking someone doesn't lead to mature conversation. I wasn't challenging you, I was trying to get clarity so I can understand your thinking. That's what most people on forums do. When someone gets upset, it usually suggests that a nerve has been hit. Telling me I "have a problem" as you did to another poster earlier is a HUGE assumption about someone you don't know from a bar of soap. If you don't like how people are responding to you, then you need to look at what you've written to instigate that. We are all responsible for our outcomes. Attacking people WILL NOT achieve anything other than a poor reflection of you.

On a better note...nice to hear that your wife is your soulmate. Good for you x

hold on ,attack you I know who,s raw nerve has been hit an it anit mine.You ask the same question time an time again in a round about way.My first post,s told the story, you want more, i an quoting you posts about your husband ,s an boyfrieds you posted .you havent had a good life in relationships ,you said it i didnt//there is no attack only comeing my way,an it make me sad that you wish to turn on me.All my relationships were good an there is no comebacks only memories ,an a lot of ladies are friends ,no one left anyone everyone is cool. it was a chapter in my life that has finished no regrets.soon as your life is metioned you go on red alert . i was honest an open now you try it an i can be the theropist .an stop the attack silly aligations.////an the poster early on sertainly had a problem going on about sniffing your sister inlaw,s underware an lifting nickers out the wash basket .that was gross an he has a seriously bad fetish

Lol....what can I say. This is too hilarious for words.

you have just let yourself down by admitting to nothing,this wasnt about me was it. Its about you any our relationships,,Now your hideing behind false laughter.shame i thought you had more in you. But your input is a lame as the guy who likes to smell nicker,s ///////////////////// ..

The fact that you're here asking this question and saying you need help, suggests that you want 'inner peace', you want to get closer to who you are but looking to sex for the answer. Are you actually wanting 'connection' or just physical pleasure? AND...on a scale of 1 - 10, how great is the sex anyway? Answering this question requires an absolute face to face encounter with self honesty. Self growth is extremely painful and a life long commitment. x

this is a piece from a post of yours, saying im asking for help,an want inner peace, where the crap do you get it from ,you are a amature theropist trying to find something thats not there. Your words are to clinical an cold . The chapter in my life has ended but i already told everyone that, My familiy are all intact an happy, stop trying to find a problem that dont exist.you say you stayed with your first husband 11years an you didnt love him. To me thats a waste of 2 lives for 11 years, then the man you love you ditch because of issuies but he was the love of your life.My wife is the love of my life an i havent ditch her.I should stand back an take a good look at yourself an your life before disecting mine

Hi manic

First off....why did you choose the name "manic" ? There is a deep seated reason for this. Mine is sweetcheeks. Think about it

Secondly, the reason I laughed was the cyber version of yeah....walking away. Not because I'm hiding, why would I do that?
If you look at your tone, it's all about "BLAME" and being "DEFENSIVE". I know through experience and knowledge that a decent conversation can not evolve whilst one person gets (and stays) defensive.

You're back peddling on responses you don't like. If you're so happily married, then why are you on this forum? Does your wife know?
Sure...some people are here to learn and share experiences, which is why I'm here, not because I don't have any inner peace. My God...I have TOO much inner peace, which is why I have too much tolerance. You don't know anything about me, so how can you make these major "sweeping statements" about someone whose name you don't even know, much less about my life. I'm saying this to be more reflective rather than defend myself. I don't need to do that, which is why I laughed in the first place.
I'm not laughing at you, but rather "memory lane". This has brought back to me my days of counselling and how many people would get defensive in the face of "self reality".

The guy I married is a story and chapter in my life, with great complexity. I was only 21 when I married him: I didn't know what love was back then. I'm now 49! There is no point in using my past experiences to hail me down, it simply reflects a lack of emotional education on your part.

The difference between you and I is that I tried to seek understanding of what you've written. You, on the other hand, are taking my words and using them to attack, thus full of judgement that is based on a lack of knowledge about me.

The secret to emotional management is firstly, taking responsibility for what we say and do. Secondly, having some respect for other people's stories and experiences.

first ,why am i on this forum, i am a clinical deppressive with acute anxierty.have been since a kid,an addicted to ativan an take 100mg of zoloft,had lots of work through breakdowns an hospital ones as well//so next the name manic666 is a name people would not use as for the devil sign 666.it to show strenth in the face of illness , people would sooner not put the sign of the devil, as i dont care its difience,Next this is not my thread i simply put a 10 word answer to some one,s thread an hear we are.No i dont no you ,but i can read your threads like you read mine, an i to can access a person on how they write. i am afraid your looking for something thats not there, there are no issuies it a chapter thats done finished .You could have asked your questions when it was hapening but there pointless now.Your not to keen on sex are you you can take it or leave it.mabye you have never had a ogasm through sex ,there is something buging you, i didnt get agreasive only bored with the same line of crap question s as to why i needed to have sex with so many women. When the simple answer is i liked it an so did the women.now tell me what is your hang up on sex, an the bad experience you have had with it. i think your 49an a little jealouse that you missed out on alot of lifes pleasure do to moral dilema.Its a shame as good sex is biggest high there is.the only difference is my wife is the only reciever now which is fine by both of us.i dont dislike you in fact your like a shcool teacher, this was not a big issue to me ,read my hospital threads thats more gritty an tragic

Sorry to hear about your condition. It explains a lot.

As for my hang ups...if it makes you feel good to think I have them, then that's O.K manic.
Again....some major sweeping assumptions, but hey...each to their own.
Yes, of course you can pick up things through a thread, providing you read them through clean filters.
Unfortunately, many people listen and read through their own filters.

O.K...interesting thread, but I'm going to go find one that is even more interesting.

Have a great weekend.