Allo there

I'm new the the forum. I'd like to take this opportunity to say Hi to everyone here and to introduce myself.

I live a relatively stress free life, I don't have many committments or a huge amount of responsibilities.

Although for the past few months I've started building an extremely tight relationship with someone... although some major events have occurred that concern me immensly...

I'm desperate for answers, I've searched all over the web. Telling me to phone doctors and such will not work, coz I live 3000 miles away from this special person...

Please check my posts in the Dissociative Fugue section and also the Alzheimer>Amnestic part of the forum.

I'm begging you all

p.s. I may have posted a different thread in the wrong section of forum, so don't crucify me for this please >.<

Hi XLeoD,

Welcome to the forums.

--Frayed

Hi Leo,

I read your post here:
amnestic-disorder/topic48174.html

But I honestly don't know what to say. I don't have personal experience with dissociative fugue or amnesia... A possibility might be that her brain went into overload and temporarily repressed everything about herself. I wonder why she got locked out of her house. What's the family environment like?

She might dream about things that she doesn't remember during the day. Try asking her to describe her dreams to you. I find it doubtful that she has completely lost all her memories, although I suppose it's not out of the realm of possibility, given the cold and then the fever...

See if she would be willing to draw pictures and show them to you. Maybe she could re-gain her memories that way. Although, if she has PTSD, they might be painful for her. I wouldn't comment on the drawings for now (unless you've read up on it). I think that re-gaining memories would be just as frightening as losing them in the first place.

Good luck to you both. It's not easy losing someone you love...especially if they're still there in body...(I can identify with that, at least.)

--Frayed

The family environment isn't amazing, there is no physical abuse but there is a lot of verbal abuse... and her mother does lower her self esteem as much as she can.. usually there is little or no reason why she gets 'punished' in odd ways.

She says it's painful to try to remember, but she still acts the same as she used to.. and her reactions to certain things are the same as they would be normally.. (like her reaction when her brother bought her cake.. and her reaction to when she saw a picture of me and such and such).

Yeah, I can imagine if her memories do come back - she will have another massive shock

She's meant to be going home tonight, and I'm going to get a chance to phone her... she says she's excited about hearing my voice.

I think that if she has a lot of reminders at home.. like sights.. smells and sounds, then it might trigger some memories back.

Can nobody tell me how long this will last?

Thanks

Leo,

I could be wrong, but I don't think anyone can tell you how it's going to last--not even a doctor who sees her every day. It's going to take as long as it needs to.

Have faith...at least she didn't experience a personality shift, which can happen with physical brain damage.

Let me know how things go.

--Frayed

Alright, I guess I gotta be patient (which I'm not very good at).

I'll give updates

Ringing her later on when, trying to think of ways to possibly 'trigger memories'

All rightey. Just be careful what you trigger. I'd leave it up to a therapist, but I can't stop ya. If you do it, do it carefully and gently.

--Frayed

Hey... she got taken home today, her brother was with her.

When she was going in to the house she started panicking... as she entered her room she was panicking more, and crying..

Her brother comforted her to sleep.. but he got called urgently in to work and had to leave her at home alone.. Her mother arrived home at some point, and started telling her to clean the house.

I was speaking to her and she was begging me to make her mother (she didnt know it was her mother) stop... fortunately soon after, her brothers friend arrived to pick her up and take her to his house... somewhere safer. My girl was telling me she wanted to go to hospital.. hospital was safe..

I told the guy to take her to hospital and I haven't heard from her so far (been about 15mins).

My girl was saying "something BAD happened here.. something bad!" she was getting extremely panicky and presumably terrified...

She's on her way to hospital, so I know she'll be in good hands.. but her brother and I really need a hand on what to do, we're not sure if it's a great idea to take her home.. especially when her mother is there.

actually it was her mothers partner, who is also female.

I pray to God that her mother's partner isn't attracted to your girl, and that her mother isn't jealous of that attraction.

Not because I'm anti-gay, but because that's not how mothers & their partners should treat their kids/stepkids.

She will probably be OK at the hospital. Is there any way to get her out of the house? Sounds like her mother is a negative influence--whether or not her actions contributed to the amnesia.

--Frayed