From hell...ring a bell?

411needed wrote:But keep in mind that the letting go is one of the hardest things to do because of the following:

1.) There is no closure for the victim
2.) The victim has been manipulated
3.) The victim had been seperated from his friends and family
4.) The victim had been financially drained
5.) The victim is made to think that he or she has the issue, not the person with hpd
6.) The victim hads been emotionally abused
7.) The victim has had their basic emotional needs stripped
8.) There is love involved, everyone has their own healing time
9.) The victim has no local support group to talk to about the issues and abuse that they have been through such as group support and sponsors
10.) The victims are often too proud to get help being that most of the victims are men and are looked at as SUPPOST to be strong and not cry for help

There is so many other reasons to list but the above is just off the top of my head

Just some of the reasons why it is so hard to just let go! The abuse is real and so is the pain! Healing from being a victim of hpd is something I thought would be fast, but it hangs on. The thoughts of being with the woman I wanted and found linger. All of the what ifs go through my mind even after knowing what I know about her? It validates the fact that I have been emotionally and financially abused! I'll get over it one day. I thought that it would be fast, but that is not what is going on.

This is really good insight...shows the entrapment of abuse

411needed wrote:But keep in mind that the letting go is one of the hardest things to do because of the following:

1.) There is no closure for the victim
2.) The victim has been manipulated
3.) The victim had been seperated from his friends and family
4.) The victim had been financially drained
5.) The victim is made to think that he or she has the issue, not the person with hpd
6.) The victim hads been emotionally abused
7.) The victim has had their basic emotional needs stripped
8.) There is love involved, everyone has their own healing time
9.) The victim has no local support group to talk to about the issues and abuse that they have been through such as group support and sponsors
10.) The victims are often too proud to get help being that most of the victims are men and are looked at as SUPPOST to be strong and not cry for help

There is so many other reasons to list but the above is just off the top of my head

Just some of the reasons why it is so hard to just let go! The abuse is real and so is the pain! Healing from being a victim of hpd is something I thought would be fast, but it hangs on. The thoughts of being with the woman I wanted and found linger. All of the what ifs go through my mind even after knowing what I know about her? It validates the fact that I have been emotionally and financially abused! I'll get over it one day. I thought that it would be fast, but that is not what is going on.

This is really good insight...shows the entrapment of abuse

All of this is making me start to write a book about all of it and give insight to men who have been abused by an hpd. I am doing research now and Shivers, mywave, panama and anyone else that wishes to help can post the studies and they will be saved and used. I just need the information that the studies were found by and anything else given. The abuse is real and so is the domestic violence involved.

This is a global issue considering that this is a global site and some of the hpd people are all over the world.

These are just the ones that we have encountered. The people who admit they have hpd and somehow blanket the truth and move on undetected to give more abuse to unknowing victims.

It will take time and it will take alot of research, but this is where my healing is leading me to.

I just got banned by letting go of my anger and making personal attacks on my ex that will never happen again. I will not let someone get me upset about the lies anymore. This is so hard to deal with. At every intersection I am questioned about the truth. Women do abuse and this is the truth.

It took her emailing to get me unbanned. I was the one abused and still she had the power to reverse it? Power and control are all methods of abuse. The truth is truth!

I will not address any attacks made on to me and I will just state untrue and then this: I'm moving on to a more healthy position. Meaning that I will not allow myself to become angery about what isn't true! I guess when I do it feeds the fire of manipulation. This is the hardest to get over for me!

A person with hpd is very cunning in the web of manipulation and once they figure you out. It is like playing a Fender guitar and the audience is all but ready to defend the real victim because the current studies point to the woman being abused almost always. That is not the case if anyone has or is in a relationship with a person that has hpd! Time will prove this!

Closing: Just trying to heal and get help. I have been in relationships where these types of actions have not been a issue. This one with a hpd has been a nightmare! The nightmare is relived daily until it is over. The thing that hurts is that no one is on to the acts of a hpd person because they use your weakness against you until you look like the bad guy? Remember they study what you are, who you want to be with, and all of your weaknesses until they can form a act. Nothing different about all of the other acts involving the hpd. Anything to create drama and claim the victim? Not anymore, this has opened my eyes to men being abused by women that have histionic personality disorder and women are the primary gender to carry it? Interesting to say the least that this is not addressed hardly at all........

So be it, I'm the bad guy? I don't lie and manipulate...........
I will be the bad guy until my book is published.
I will be until a website is opened for victims of hpd.
I will be until a movement of V.O.H.P.D. is started at a local level.
(V=Victims, O=of, H=Histrionic, P=Personality, D=Disorder)
I will be until domestic violence is revamped to aid men and hpd.
I will be until the world knows what is really going on with hpd.

This I swear and to everyone affected by the abuse of a person with histrionic personality didorder, give it time and the truth of what we have been through will come out!!! I won't stop until it does!!!