Question from NON DID.

How much of a difference can one supportive person make to a person with DID?

More then you'll ever know.

Yeah, what she just said there. You got no idea. Most of us probably have it because we didn't have anybody around who was like that. So it's almost too much of a good thing when we do. It's real hard to believe for some of us so you'll maybe have to cut us some slack if we don't know how to deal with it. Or if we get kind of mad even, like to test you.

ALL of the difference. I am a non-DID and my son was only diagnosed about 2-3 weeks ago. Really, my days are running into one another because so much has happened so fast...but he has my support, he has the freedom to BE who he is...all of who he is. And I love each part and accept them where they are...and this has helped his healing begin. I know he couldn't do it without support. I know if he didn't have a 'safe place' and a 'safe person' he might have really harmed himself, someone else, or been admitted to a psych ward as inpatient by now.

Please use this board..then if you are the 'only one' you are not truly the only one - you be the DID's support...and we will be yours. You aren't in it alone. And there's so much to learn...I encourage you to be supportive when/how you can, and use the resources you can so you are taking care of yourself as well! Take care!

We'd probably be much better off if we had someone irl to completely confide in. The psychological damage is too much for this to happen. We cannot trust anyone. We are pretty sure ppl here don't even believe us.

If we'd had someone who cared enough about us and listened to us, and had been willing to speak up and talk to us, we might have been out of the situation already. Since everyone we knew turned a blind eye and did nothing, we're still living with out abuser, financially dependent and unable to get out.

We're 24 years old, and spent the first 20 years feeling like we were insane and a danger to everyone. I didn't realize our abuser was our abuser, so I didn't understand the violent, bloody images in my head directed towards the abuser. We felt crazy because the first system member we had was a girl from an TV series that, at that point, hadn't even been created yet; I'm not even going to try and explain how a two year old "comes up" with something in 1992 that didn't debut until 1996. But it happened, and I couldn't explain it... still can't... and I felt like I was insane. This system member is our girl that remembers everything. I cannot imagine how far along we'd be, if people had been willing to listen to her and not go "but she's a tv character! she can't be real!" It is sad, and I don't doubt that's the reason why she is now mute.

Support is the most important thing, I am convinced. Support from someone outside the system is validating, grounding. Having someone to turn to is just... invaluable.

Non-DID SO here!

You can make a lot of difference to someone with DID. I admit, personally, it sometimes seems like I can't do enough or that I'm not good enough. That's one of the challenges my SO and I have had to deal with.

I have a friend via the internet who I confide in. I can tell him anything and everything and I've never even met him. But each time I pour my heart out to him and cry about my life and the gory details he lifts me up and holds me high because at the moment I cannot do it for myself. I leave feeling like someone cares and there is always hope.

mow59 wrote:How much of a difference can one supportive person make to a person with DID?

An enormous amount, more than you'll ever be able to comprehend.

It can save a life, it has mine.