How do you organise your daily life for everyone inside?

Hi there. This is 70%Hailey and 30%Ana.

We're facing exams recently and the little one (Ana) was causing problems during our study. Ana has attention deficiency and she just always wants cartoons and games while we're studying.
So, finally we come to an agreement that we'll switch like every 1 hour (but still highly co-conscious), to do what each of us want to do and what must be done. Also, i found that at late night Ana is mush less active (and noisy) so i try to allocate the studying time to that period. They turn out to be a pretty good solution. But of course there are still some little problems got to be fixed.

And i'm starting this post because i'd like to learn from the way other people here organise your life according to every insider's special needs. Welcome any sharing. Thanks!

Hi AnaHailey!

My other parts often like to do other things than what I'm doing. None of the others can take as much control I do, so that creates lots of conflict when I don't do what they want. We have this sort of space in out mind where everyone just hangs out. Most of us don't really care about the real world so they just stay in their rooms and o whatever they do. For example, 2 and 3 are good friends and don't care about the outside so 2 just stays in her room and sleeps or something. I don't even know what she does XD She just sleeps and some days when I don't sleep, I would feel her exhaustion and the need to go to sleep. She also just lies on her bed and let's her mind wonder about patterns and stuff and when I can, I wonder with her. 3, I don't know what 3 does all day. She probably half watches the outside and makes sure we don't worry anyone or do something morally wrong. She often likes to play with 5 and 6, the system's Littles.

5 and 6 don't know anything about the outside world and they never show themselves to people, unless I ask them to. They like to play pretend and they pretend fight dragons. They're in the other room and don't come out to the main hanging out room often. When they do, they just play tag with the others and it never bothered me. I can shift my focus from inside to outside and ignore them completely.

4 is my best friend and she's often the one I have conversations with. She needs a lot of attention, and sometimes I can't ignore her. When I'm doing something she's completely not interested in, she just reads a book and we're all fine with that. It's not often a real book, she's just sitting on one of the chairs and reads. Just the action of reading something, being quiet, and at the same time distracted.

So what I'm trying to say is, when Ana wants to play or be noisy or just be a kid and you need to study, you can have her in a separate room or just a separate space and let her play there while you study. She can have any toy she can imagine. I'm sure she's not interested in reading a boring old text book and notes so she can easily focus inside on her toys, while Hailey focuses on the outside and studying or taking the exam. Ana can even take that time as nap time and sleep so Hailey can have a quiet environment. When Ana wants to have most of the control and play in the outside world, Hailey can review what she learned and quiz herself or make plans for the future.

Of course, keep spending time with each other in between!

Best of luck!

Gosh Im disorganiiiiiisized! hee!
I remember I had to sit for a test, and suddenly I feel this jitteryness and the voices"I dont wana do it!, I hate THIS! I wana go home! I wana eat a sandwich! I dont get it! finish it! lets go!"

LOL

Im just gonna sit back and learn from the others and how you all organize because I cant organize at all...
my day is a mess!!!!!!

Hi pepsinotes, It seems you're managing your system quite well
Thanks a lot for the advice! They're really useful but sadly we still not have any inner space as far as i know.(i'm Hailey) Also, yesterday we've got a situation......... So perhaps things got to be rearranged x_x


Hey TinyPieces, i've the same problem sometimes when im sitting for test! And sometimes i got failed because of that........

So sorry you failed I have an alter that does my work for me, but she doesnt always come out at the right time.

sigh

Intruder. The mental phenomena that goes on in DID people seems surprisingly similar to that of other neurotics. I myself can very well relate my own experience of studying with yours, so i couldn't resist about posting. Various mental formations constantly arise, they want to fantasize on anime and games, they hate it, want to go home, lament, feel aching, and reduce their presence at night. They're all marked as "me" though. I can tell the identity marking happens right at the arising stage of these formations. It's like they take their own life when they arise and for a split second they become me, then dissolve. Never ever two phenomena can be at a time. They may come and go at blazing speeds, such as 5, 10 per seconds or so, but one at time, always.

I found that mine needed some social structure, so they go to school now. I know that's weird, but its working well.

http://dx-dissociative-identity-disorde ... ck-to.html

Hi Itachi,
It seems DID is really causing problems on people's studying Im now trying to occupy her with something she likes. Perhaps you can try too.

Tylas, i've visited your blog. It is good that you're coping quite well with the help of the schools It's not weird, just a creative way to cope. But im afraid it won't be possible for my system.

I've found that I need to give my littles time in the body every day or two or they get antsy and upset. It breaks my heart when they cry about how I'm being mean to them, how I don't believe in them (they can tell if I'm having specific doubting thoughts when they're out), how we used to be friends (from the twins) and now I got big and I'm not nice. I have to remind myself daily, and I've actually put posters up around my condo to that effect, that I'm not alone anymore, I made a mess of things on my own, and I need to give the others a chance to help fix our life.

I've also found stability happens when everyone is checked in on regularly. Twelve others is a lot but not as many as a lot of people have. In fact, whether they're willing or not, I try to cycle everybody outside except Ashar, who is always in trauma, and Marc, who'll say something like "I'm just a fragment, don't bother, give my time to the children." Some would just as soon be left alone, but I don't want to neglect any part of me. If I didn't have DID and were facing some midlife crisis, the rules would be the same I think. You can't be mentally and emotionally healthy if an integral part of you is ignored, disrespected, squelched, or denied. You can do it for a while, and sometimes you're in a place where you just have to, but eventually you'll pay the price for not being your real self, all of it.

If I had an inside of any depth and that's how my system worked, I would try to arrange things to go on inside for them. But to my knowledge, not a whole lot of activity or discussions have taken place inside. Some, but not all the time.

I actually did create a daily schedule a few months ago along the lines of:
5:30-6:00 John, wake up, shower, coffee
6:00-6:45 Dan, exercise/walking/running
6:45-7:15 Johann & Hansel, legos, coloring books
7:15-8:15 Jonathan, DID-related reading
8:15-8:40 Quato breakfast or whatever
8:40-9:00 Jack walk to work
etc......

It was too much structure but we may go back to something like that. We need to keep me out of being in the body most of the time.

Johnny Jack
Thank you so much for your response. I really got alot out of it. Plus it is so timely. That is exactly where i am at, trying to make sure everyone gets space, and time out to do what it is they enjoy. If i am happy, its because everyone is happy. I enjoyed the way you gave expression to it.