Norma, what did I say, ill talk to you but please put a trigger warning?
I understand you feel that way hun, I totaly do and you can vent to me I promise, and yeah its easy to tell you to chill but you're just going to get yourself angry and upset, trust me I do it.
What her dad did is wrong so wrong, and I know you feel so much pain for it but you're not going about it the right way attacking eachother.. I've spoke sense so far right?? Just try if not for you or her for me. You both feel pain which is why you don't understand, you both attack eachother because its all you know how to do, but you need to try to stop arguing I've had a go at her and I'm saying same to you.
I understand she locked you up and it hurts as you've done a lot for her but she doesn't see that, she sees you scared and reacts with defense. The same as you. you both need to talk. She doesn't need to know details but you need to explain you were there for her and that's why you now need help too.
I'm from England!! What's it like over there??