Silence

For the last few days, actually since I told my sister about us, everyone's been quiet. I haven't switched out. I haven't heard anything from them. No one's written in our journal. No one has given any indication that they're in there. It makes me question their existence. Does this happen to anyone else?

Sometimes your system feels a need to take a day off. I've had my alters go quiet on me before. But this sounds very different. Maybe they're giving you the silent treatment. Or maybe they just up and left. Who knows. Give it another day or two.

Like Bates, I've had that happen. Most recently when someone who knew about our DID told someone else and we found out. It is possible their just a bit pissy and will be back soon. I find anger and frustration can cause this to happen with us.

I would give it a few more days, I've had it for up to a week then they come back with full force and give me a massive headache! Hang in there hun xx

- Mara x

Thanks guys. It just really throws me off and I feel imbalanced and honestly a bit lost. It's been...-counts on fingers-...4 days. I wonder if they're mad that I slipped up around my sister; I didn't mean to. I was just doing what's normal for us and that's talking out loud. This hasn't happened to me before, so I don't know how to handle it, but I'll follow your advice and just wait it out..

It's happened here on a few occasions. It has always happened during a time of extreme stress for everyone involved. It's rarely them being silent so much as it is my own mind cutting me off from them and vice versa. This also means (for us, anyhow) that we cannot switch out. I don't know why it happens that way, but... *shrugs* I've got several friends who are multiple who have this happen during extreme stress as well. Or sometimes, it's fear, or their own feelings of not being real (which seems probable in your case). That silence is scary, but you'll hear them again and probably soon.

-Leigh

Sounds to me they may be scared = protecting you, or vice versa, as Leigh says. I haven't told any of my family but I wrote my sister (3000 miles away), just one line: you may want to read more about 'this'. She wrote back "whatever works for you." I disconnected from all of my family because talking to them is the hardest. I need (a LOT of) space without intrusions.

At times it gets very quiet, up to 3 or 4 weeks for me. The balance is always tricky. And I am new to the idea of did. It's unnerving, but I try to assume there is always a GOOD reason...

Heya

Just wondered how you guys are? Hope everything's back to 'normal' again xxx

-Ker

Thanks for checking, but...nope... And last night would have been perfect timing on their part. Stupid flashbacks. I usually don't have to deal with them - that's actually the second time in my entire life. It feels like there's a wall in my head and no one is making moves to get over it and I'm pretty much helpless because I didn't put it there and I don't know how to make it go away. Today is day 5. I feel...well, to be honest, I feel totally lost and abandoned. But I'm trying to stay positive. I'll let you know what happens when it happens. C:

Ah I hate flashbacks, they're so frustrating (for lack of a better word!)

Like Leigh & Pob said it's possibly a stress induced thing, or maybe they're trying to 'help' by going away. I really hope it sorts itself out soon, cuz it's so crappy being forced into being a single when you're used to being a multiple. In times of extreme stress the others and I have disconnected so to speak, so maybe that's what it is?

Really sorry I can't be more helpful honey! xx

-Mara

splintered_fairy wrote:cuz it's so crappy being forced into being a single when you're used to being a multiple.

That's the thing...I'm not a singlet whether I've been forced to feel that way or not. There are still memories and pieces of me that don't belong to me; things I don't have. Therefore, I'm not technically a whole person. I'm kind of like a fragment just floating along (tra la la) not really knowing about the bad things and not really feeling the good things. I pretend I do, but everyone inside knows different. I'm honestly not sure what they're trying to pull here, but I don't like it. I'm not whole, I'm not even me without them. Bah.