Dating in Outer World?

Um, not sure what I should say, I noticed that apparently one of us made an account on here. Hi everyone! You may call me Star.

I have a question. Mainly I was just hoping for some advice, if you will give us some, please.

So a bunch of us had an inner, let's say conflict, but we have straightened it out some now. However we still have our conflicts every so often regarding this (mainly fears of it either not working, or at least one of us tying to sabotage it), and a whole pile of other things. Anyway, getting to the point:

A lot of us have agreed to possibly try dating. We have NEVER dated anyone before (in the outer world). So we don't even know how it would work. We have tons of trust issues, BUT still there is a few of us who REALLY want to get a boyfriend.

A large percentage of us, have actually decided to allow this (it has been many years to come to this agreement), but have ABSOLUTELY NO clue how to go about it when we have DID. Let alone we NEVER dated anyone in our entire life (outer world). I know with our trust issues it will be hard for us, BUT we feel maybe it could still work out (mainly because we've been working with our T to improve our trust). Our host (Stephanie) NEVER agreed to it before, so for her to say it is okay to try, is shocking.

Like I mentioned before, this idea isn't new. It's been pending and knocked down many times over the course of probably at least 5 years now. (it would be even more, but even older was an absolute "No") 4 years ago, we had about a 48% approval rating (with a lot being neutral, and a lot against it). Now it is about a 75% to 80% approval rating with the rest (who gave their answer) being on the neutral side). The main difference is that our Host and even more surprising is a BUNCH of the protectors have given their approval this time.

So, we might give it a try. It is still pending, BUT it looks like we probably will. So any ideas on this? Like is there anything we should know? We're nervous he will realize we have DID and won't like us anymore (if we find someone), BUT we definitely don't want to keep it hidden. So please help. We are absolutely clueless in this matter. Let alone being brave enough to tell him we have DID (but I'm obviously getting WAY ahead of myself because we don't even know where to find a boyfriend yet). HOWEVER, online dating is out of the question. The protectors claim that is way too dangerous.

Thanks in advance!

Star

You will find some answers and reflexions in hte following topics:

DID dating another DID: dissociative-identity/topic220215.html

DID dating for the first time: post2222555.html

Non-DID dating DID: post2206799.html

Dating when dissociated: post2181306.html

If you want to dig up older topics or less specific ones, do not hesitate to use "Advanced search" and look for "dating" within the "dissociation" area of the forum. "Advanced serarch" can be accessed through this link: search.php

I hope these past topics will help you get started with sorting things out for yourself/ves!

Thank you for the information!