Troubled alter

My alter, Owen has been extra controlling; cause of being so hurt by my brother last year for the whole year.
I was re- traumatized last year by some of my childhood abusers. And, to protect me my alter would black my out and give me amnesia. My brother would get in our face, and yell at my alter for not doing anything, or smoking out the door. As well as to get out of supposed " his" house. To harm us in a way. My alter wouldn't take our pills and counted on my brother to get them for us. But, all we got was rejection. Some deep issues my alter has.

Owen knows he's troubled by what happened during that year. And, would let me be at a psych ward. So we'd get our pills. But we're instead overdosed by pills that wouldn't work for us. I'm mainly venting for Owen. To try to reach out for him. This is why all the trouble for me lately. And he just needs to start with some reasuring words to help him.

He was hurt pretty deep trying to protect me, but doesn't know how to process his feelings for how he was hurt. Cause he's mainly now telling me what happened during that year. Were alone now in our house we were threatened to get kicked out of. And Owen is scared of me not being their for him. Even with reasurance. Can some protectors help owen out a bit?

Hi Owen. Someone in our system kind of feels a connection to you, not just here but in other posts. You probably can't take away the hurt right now but you should at least know that you sound really strong. Even if you don't always make the best choice in every situation, sometimes taking over the situation and making at least some choice is what's needed. You've helped everyone make it this far and I hope you're appreciated.

Thank you for your kind words. Owen says he feels a bit better cause of talking about this trauma. As well as he's feeling more needed cause of the connection with your alter. He's been more truthful.

And, has as well told me why he's causing me pain. He doesn't want to go to far in blocking my pain cause of it being somatic pain caused by certain foods. Though thankfully I just have to stay away from ice cream, to avoid Owen disociating me and eating most of it. Without my awareness. Owen thanks you for your kind words. And says to be strong. You just have to stick by one another. As well as help each other out during any situation needed. But during rough times it's ok to be troubled.. just make sure you don't harm your core person. They need you most

Hi Owen,

You're a strong guy. That means you can really help your system. Just make sure what you do is really helping. I used to do all kinds of stuff that hurt everybody when I was just trying to help. I learned to do things that kept everybody safer. That made me a better Protector.

Keep talking about how you feel. That makes it work.

Colin