Just told my sister...

Hello,

I am having a very deep situation, for which I could need some warm words or maybe some tips how to deal with it, from people, who have gone through similar stuff.

After years of no contact, I finally wrote a message to my sister.. including the info I have DID.
She was sceptical, but offered me to explain my lifestory, out of my own view, which I did in a long long message.

Now I am waiting for an answer, and it's really harsh..
She is one of the main triggers for my emotional part (my child-part), and if my sister wouldn't believe me, this part would be horribly sad and hurt.
She was the main person in the life of my little, and they share some deep memories.
Even while writing this, I keep receiving a ton of emotions by my child-me.

Although I know, that maybe she won't answer, and maybe she won't believe, and that I have to deal with that, I am totally lost atm.

The problem is, that she interpreted all the co-concious moments of my childhood/youth as being lying. That's why there is a high chance, she will also think so, about what I told her.

I hope so much, that she will believe me, and that my little is able to have contact with her again

Ok if I could delete the thread I would, cause this time there was no waiting time of days/weeks, she answered already several hours later
Makes this thread kind of useless.

It is still a not very easy situation, but at least there was finally real talk, real communication again.
And she believed it.

Glad to hear!

Thank you

That's terrific news. I've found in my own and in families of others with DID there can be a range of complete belief to complete denial. And these can occur in the same person at different times. Also, some family members and friends will be quite ignorant about DID and hold all sorts of misconceptions that they feel pretty confident about. In other words, be happy you've gotten the belief in you that you had hoped and that you certainly deserve. There may -- or may not -- be times ahead that are frustrating but it sounds like you're aware of that.

There are probably parallels with someone who's gay telling family members. It can take time for some people to adjust. Except siblings of someone with DID usually experienced the environment that led to DID for you and reassessing that can bring up challenges for them.

Johnny-Jack wrote:That's terrific news. I've found in my own and in families of others with DID there can be a range of complete belief to complete denial. And these can occur in the same person at different times. Also, some family members and friends will be quite ignorant about DID and hold all sorts of misconceptions that they feel pretty confident about.

First, I want to thank you for your words and advice.
I think what you experienced in regards to the quoted part, is something I will also have to prepare for, when telling my parents in some months. They will also denial as much as possible.

I hope btw, that by now, your own family members and friends have learned to accept, what you told them.

Johnny-Jack wrote:In other words, be happy you've gotten the belief in you that you had hoped and that you certainly deserve. There may -- or may not -- be times ahead that are frustrating but it sounds like you're aware of that.

There are probably parallels with someone who's gay telling family members. It can take time for some people to adjust. Except siblings of someone with DID usually experienced the environment that led to DID for you and reassessing that can bring up challenges for them.

In this particular case, she doesn't have the problem to adjust her opinion or rating of the circumstances, because she knows way more than me about the reasons of my/our problems.

But you are right nevertheless, it is very hard for her, to add 2 parts to her conception of me, she wants or needs to see me as a whole one. She wants to see the parts as blocked memories and feelings, and in a way it isn't even that wrong.

The fact, that the parts developed an own life/personality each, is something that must be hard to understand or accept for others, who didn't experience exactly the same.
That this is an uncomfortable thought for some people, is totally fine for me, everyone has to guard his own reality.