Reaching out...

So Pixie's done well at reaching out to friends, in person, that she knows are trustworthy and supporting.

On the 4th we had a big cookout (an annual event at our house) and a friend was here that knows was here... Pixie made a point of finding time alone with this friend to talk to her, in person. It was a good half hour conversation apparently. Both she and the friend said it went well and they were both happy to have done it.

This morning, after our appointment with the T - a VERY VERY hard one, first time going over the memories of the later sexual abuse experiences (one of them)... Pixie was out b/c I was struggling. My father in-law had taken me to this appointment and he asked how it went. Pixie replied it went well, but I guess something in her body language, tone, or how she said it made him give her an odd look. She hesitated, but eventually told him it was her, not me. He knows what's going on, has borrowed our
books and been reading them... and they talked all the way home- about 20-25 minutes.
He told her he doesn't understand but is supportive of her, and me- noting US individually... (Pixie is the first alter he's ever talked to, that he's aware of and that's been an open conversation- today the first time). When they got home, he told her he noticed a hesitation before she said who she was and told her NOT to do that next time. She doesn't need to worry about it, he's supportive and there for her, me, all of us.

All in all, very brave of her, and I am glad for that. MAYBE this will be a first few steps to more openness in our situation, our condition, and accepting who we are as a whole, for ALL of us... both internally (me/us) and externally (friends and loved ones).

Just thought I'd share something good and uplifting since we tend to get a lot of struggles and hardships shared here... some GOOD news is nice to see once in a while, eh?

Hi Zor,

I'm glad those experiences went well for all of you. That's great that your friend and the father in law were both really accepting and everything, of meeting Pixie.

Arin

That's beautiful news and it's so good to hear about this. Hope everything will continue like this for you all.
Also, well done telling him someone else was out! I get that's a pretty hard thing to do.

Wow. That's very impressive. We still have trouble telling the husband when one of us is out. Your father-in-law sounds great. And your friend, also.

That's awesome.

TheGangsAllHere wrote:Wow. That's very impressive. We still have trouble telling the husband when one of us is out. Your father-in-law sounds great. And your friend, also.

We still struggle with others being out around my wife, too- not at all comfortable with the idea yet.