Y'all were right.... there's a new one.

I hate to say it, but it looks like y'all were right. *sigh*

Link to the original post, trigger warning, because my little was triggered.... dissociative-identity/topic207724.html

A new one has surfaced, she calls herself Val. We know nothing about her. I can't feel her or see her like I feel or see the others (and they feel/see me). If they've known about her they are staying silent on it. So I don't know if they did or not.

I had a dream last night in which I had gone to bed, and woke up the next morning with a stranger. I of course said "WTF are you???" His response was "Tell the crazy horney one I'm done. Now beat feet."

So my husband finds out about it, and of course he's livid. In the dream I'm trying to explain that I have no memory of this and have no idea who the man was or how he got there. Next scene he and I are in a a counseling session with my T, and they call Britney out, and they start questioning her. She's an emotional mess, tears streaming down her face, swearing it wasn't her and that she had no memory of it either.

Then all the sudden her face changes, and someone says, "Who the hell are you?" And she responds, ""You can call me Val."

So, this morning I'm telling my husband about the dream, and he sighs heavily and says, "Yeah, I met Val last week."

I was shocked, I didn't say anything at first. Finally I took a shaky breath and said, "You're serious." He said that it was Sunday morning, He had just woken up, and she starts talking to him, and says something about "they love you." At this point he knew it was someone new, and jokingly said, "What, you don't love me?" and she said, "I don't even know you."

Supposedly she told him that she just stays in the background and doesn't like to "come out" because she "hates people and they're stupid."

I asked him why he didn't tell me, and basically he figured she'd show herself to me when SHE was ready. And he "got the feeling she's not really going to be out much anyway."

I don't like it. I'm frustrated and angry. I feel like crying. I texted my T and told her, she said, "Well you said yesterday that you feel like there might be another one."

Why? Why now? Why didn't she pop out two years ago with the first three? Or a few months ago when the little wolf showed up? Why now? Is she a new split? Or has she just been hanging out in the background all this time? I'm not trying to communicate with her right now, I just don't feel up to it.

Sigh.

Kitten

Anything and everything can trigger an alter out as far as we can tell.

Nixie was triggered out of isolation because everything was going well. We were happy with no stress (I always had stressful jobs before so even when home was ok there was stress still.)

It felt very much as if someone decide that I had reached a place in my life when I could deal with things so it was time to. Only I don't know what was going on and was overwhelmed.

You have found a way to work with the others so I'm sure you will manage with Val as well and good luck.

NyxX wrote:Anything and everything can trigger an alter out as far as we can tell.

Nixie was triggered out of isolation because everything was going well. We were happy with no stress (I always had stressful jobs before so even when home was ok there was stress still.)

It felt very much as if someone decide that I had reached a place in my life when I could deal with things so it was time to. Only I don't know what was going on and was overwhelmed.

You have found a way to work with the others so I'm sure you will manage with Val as well and good luck.

Thanks NyxX.

I'm trying really hard to not think overly negative thoughts about it, 'cause that so did not work out well at all when I did it with Britney. I was just really surprised. My husband is telling me to stay calm, that it'll be fine and we'll work through it.

Kitten

I just posted a whole reply that disappeared--I guess because other replies were happening at the same time.

Anyway, the gist of it was that this is progress, which is always unsettling and that Val sounds like a protector. Perhaps she would like to post on the protector thread at some point.

There's no rush to communicate if you don't feel up to it yet, just hang in there.

Kitten @ ItsJustUs wrote:So, this morning I'm telling my husband about the dream, and he sighs heavily and says, "Yeah, I met Val last week."

How anyone can doubt that DID exists is beyond me.

TheGangsAllHere wrote:I just posted a whole reply that disappeared--I guess because other replies were happening at the same time.

Anyway, the gist of it was that this is progress, which is always unsettling and that Val sounds like a protector. Perhaps she would like to post on the protector thread at some point.

There's no rush to communicate if you don't feel up to it yet, just hang in there.

Thanks for the supportive response.

May I ask, what makes you says he sounds like a protector? I only ask because I know nothing about her, other than she's a female who calls herself Val.

Kitten

-- Wed Jul 11, 2018 8:55 am --

Una+ wrote:

Kitten @ ItsJustUs wrote:So, this morning I'm telling my husband about the dream, and he sighs heavily and says, "Yeah, I met Val last week."

How anyone can doubt that DID exists is beyond me.

Exactly.

My husband can take one look at "me" and know which of us is out.

And Britney is always baffled, because several times she's come out at night in bed. In the dark, cuddling with him, not saying a word, and he'll say, "Hi, my Love." And she'll say, "How did you know it was me? I didn't say anything and you can't see me."

And he says, "I can't tell you how I know.. I just know." I think it's body language. I think she has a way of cuddling and touching that is unique to her, and he instinctively knows it.

Anyway.

With Val, apparently he didn't even see her face. She wasn't touching him, was facing the other way, and he just knew by the voice and the choice of wording that it was someone he hadn't met before.

Kitten

Z says she likes to stay in the background what she means is she likes to hide and watch for danger. Also she hates people and thinks they are stupid good traits for someone that may need to act without guilt or compassion to protect you.

We have a Val. She's nothing like your Val, though.

We know that this whole process is difficult for you. At least your husband and your T are being supportive. And we're glad your talking about it here. We understand.

MDs

NyxX wrote:Z says she likes to stay in the background what she means is she likes to hide and watch for danger. Also she hates people and thinks they are stupid good traits for someone that may need to act without guilt or compassion to protect you.

Hmmm. Interesting. Makes sense.

Kitten

-- Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:19 am --

MakersDozn wrote:We have a Val. She's nothing like your Val, though.

We know that this whole process is difficult for you. At least your husband and your T are being supportive. And we're glad your talking about it here. We understand.

MDs

Thank you. I was apprehensive about posting here at first, but I've come to really appreciate having the outlet and being able to talk to others who have DID and other disassociative disorders. I'm glad Delilah found this forum when she was doing her research.

And yes, my husband has been amazing. He knew about my parts before anyone else. I guess they felt like he was the safety they'd been waiting for. I don't know if you ever saw when I posted about how he met them. But he was very laid back. And the other day we were talking about when he met them all, and said that he had had a feeling about Lilly. He had a feeling there was a little hiding out in there, so when she came out he wasn't really surprised at all. Neither did Britney. I guess he just had great intuition. Now, Delilah, Little Wolf, and now Val all surprised him. But not those first two. But even with being surprised at the last three, it didn't phase him at all.

And it was hard to tell the T, I kept saying, "I'm not crazy. I know I sound crazy, but I'm not crazy." She just chuckled and said, "No, you're not crazy. You're DID." Thankfully she'd already encountered a patient with DID in the past. And that patient had no idea. The T put it together after about a year of therapy and realized that she was seeing two different people, who just happened to live in the same body.

What's your Val like?

Kitten

Kitten @ ItsJustUs wrote:And he says, "I can't tell you how I know.. I just know."

Yes. When you meet other multiples who switch you will have this experience yourself. There is nothing like it.

My family has a little game they play with me. Sometimes I like to "read with my eyes closed" and when I do that they like to walk up to me quietly, say nothing, and wait for me to ask them what they want. With my eyes still closed I always know who it is and I address them by name. They love it when I demonstrate I can tell who is there with my eyes closed. How do I know? They walk up differently and stand waiting differently; where they stand is especially telling. Sometimes I can hear their clothing or smell them. And there is a different energy about each one.

When my kids were little I would tell them all good mothers have all-seeing eyes in the back of their head, that's how we always know what mischief our kids are getting into. They totally believed me because most of their little friends' mothers always knew too. And I made note of which mothers did not seem to have uncanny psychic knowing mommy superpowers.

Much of my own mommy superpower I learned from interacting with high functioning blind persons. Some of them develop incredible powers of perception.